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DIGItonium

[OFFTOPIC]Dude! Short road trip to KC this Saturday. I'll be attending KC Restaurant Week, and the girl I'm meeting up over there suggests Kill Devil Club.[/OFFTOPIC]

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Bking

Interesting thread. I'm not single but I'm turning 30 very soon so here are my

Seems like some of you have relatively high standards. Keep in mind that intelligent and pretty single women with a nice personality and a good career are pretty hard to find. Unless you have the same qualities yourself, but then why would you still be single? But I digress...

It's not hard to pick up women, they are literally everywhere. If there are none that interests you within your work or social circle then you gotta look else where. You just gotta man up and go for it.

You see a cute girl studying/drinking coffee alone, i.e. without her SO, at Starbucks? Go talk to her. Worst comes to worst she will say no. Doesn't matter where the place is, a mall, a restaurant, a park, as long as you allow yourself to make the first move.

Clubs and bars are actually great places to find decent women; not all of them are sluts or "drunk whores", you just have to learn how to differentiate. A lot of them just want to have a fun night with their girl friends. Just go with a couple of buddies to help each other out when talking to them. They are usually in small groups so if you go solo they will most likely reject you.

DIGItonium

It's just the chemistry. I've met some cute single girls that I have no chemistry with. Then there are mediocre looking ones, but no one with real chemistry. A few I had some chemistry, but those girls are taken or married. Others has shown some attraction, but it's just not there with me. I get these vibes when I look into their eyes.

The one I met recently is pretty, but I didn't notice that when I first met her. My friends think she's quite hot, though. Interaction in person was great, outgoing, talkative, and I just get this really nice vibe with her. I was so pumped my workout and volleyball practice was better, and I was able to quickly implement new project ideas at work. It has been a long time since I've had such good vibes. Once she gave me the rejection speech I took it upon myself to hit the bars to have a few drinks and watch the KU and Iowa St. game, and had a couple more with some friends before calling it a night. Yesterday's volleyball practice tanked. I failed every other serve, and I barely had any opportunities to spike.

Maybe the chemistry was lost because when she found out I'm rooting for WSU Shox. She posted pics of her and her new beau wearing KU swag.

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Bking

What kind of rejection speech did she give you?

DIGItonium

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Keywords "for now." I kept it cool and thanked her for her time. That was it.

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ZRed

so what do you do when you meet another girl that you have chemistry with when you already have a gf? Its not that I don't have chemistry with the gf, but 5 years is along time together....and its the only real relationship I've had. Idk if I'm freaking out because she's the one, or because I feel trapt and I have another girl on the line. Both girls we can talk about anything and not feel akward....also girl #2 is about 30 lbs lighter so for the car it would help, but she has no real "Assets"...doesnt matter to much on that part. I'm just stuck I'm pretty sure im just being a coward and not wanting to get married like girl #1 is pushing for.

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40th_z

I laughed at the lighter on the car allow me to chime in:
I have a friend that was in a simillar situation,she was with the first real relationsihp for 4+ years until he finally proposed and she said yes. It was then that she realized how much she was missing. she had dude friends but wouldnt do much since she was heading for marriage. for those 5 years all she knew was one guy. she would tell me, he was the one but her mind was not where it needed to be, she felt if she married she'd wonder "what if". long story short, she did not get married and she went on a streak doing whatever (or anyone) she wanted lol after she got that out of her system she found the right guy and is now happily married (i think)

Cmike2780

Not judging or anything. Don't kid yourself, of course you're going to be attracted to other women. Every guy does, even when they're in a happy relationship. The difference between a douche and a man is self control.

It's okay to feel hesitant towards marriage, but after 5 years, you should know already. At the very least, you should have thought about the possibility. It's a waste of your time and hers if that's what she wants. If you're still numbering your girls and feel trapped, you're not ready for marriage. It's not looking good if you're still talking to other girls. You'd be starting a marriage with lies and that always ends in a mess. If you want to be with someone else, be with someone else. Your girlfriend deserves a guy she can trust. Would you feel okay if she was talking to some other dude with larger junk for example? Just say'n.

I guess my point is, whatever you do, don't cheat. You'll end up without a gf or end up with the girl that will always think you'll cheat on her...or you end up alone.

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NissanFan

hey alpha, mspint (pintsize725) has a premium membership only thread where you can post all the hate you have about something or someone to release. not good keeping it all inside.

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alphajam

Water under the bridge. No hate involved. I have a college degree now with a great job and she works at a grocery store or something now. I think the difference in our decisions have spoken for themselves. I have the majority of what I want in my life at this moment, and hopefully she has what she wants.

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DIGItonium

Pretty sad. I bumped into at least 4 girls in the past couple of weeks who told me their recent dbag ex bf stories, and 2 of them have a kid.

#1 The youngest one. Guy wasn't so nice to her and he tried too hard to get lucky with her in the car. After a few days of hanging out he busted out those 3 words. She dropped him. (No kid)
#2 Some random girl I met who is close to my age and told me about the past couple of abusive relationships. She's battered. She almost had a kid.
#3 A friend of mine who went through a lot last year. Got preggo, but the guy she was with pretty much continued cheating on her. He makes no effort for the baby and makes lots of empty promises. She also found out he had another kid with someone else. SMH.
#4 A old friend who went through a similar ordeal. Difference here is that he owns up to it and at least spends time with his child.

I asked them one question, and their jaws dropped. I said "So are these the guys who are super charming when you first meet them, and completely change when they get what they wanted?" All said "Yes!"

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exsanity

Imagine that.. but they continue to fall for the same bulls***.

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DIGItonium

My buddy messaged me about this the other day. He got engaged to his gf of 7 years in Nov, and they're about to tie the knot this summer. He told me about the hot girls at the gym, and how tempting it is. I told him it's "God" testing him. His fiancee is great, and it's not worth risking all of that for one night with a "hot" girl.

Anyhow, KC trip was fun. I'm starting to learn to really stay cool and make friends with whoever. It's unfortunate what some of these girls went through. They're so fun to talk to, outgoing, and easy on the eyes... but has baggage. (Ha!)

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Pintsize725

Interesting thread....

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