Over 30 and still single, post here.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

Why or how do we still talk? Beats me. I finally let go in May by throwing away stuff. A few weeks later she contacted me out of the blue. Since then we've hung out a few times, but that was it. I'm finally trying to resist contacting her again since it's a waste of my time.

Stop it. No more contact with exs. Period. She waived her right to contact you.

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

It surprised a lot of people. Her friends and family liked me. Even almost 2 years later they try to persuade her to come back to me. We did make a great team, though .

Sounds like you were carrying a bad teammate. When her family and friends say things like that, it means you were saving her from herself and they liked you for that. Still means you're the one getting the short end of the stick.

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

But I think she continued to force other options away from me, and it didn't work so well. Her former friends tell me she refuses to learn her lessons and repeat her mistakes, and that she's really selfish. Last I talked to her she told me this year has been her worse from getting cited for expired tags, flat tires, financial, health, etc.

Sounding more and more like you've dodged a bullet.

Stop worrying about pressure to get married, or being a certain age. You want to talk pressure? Date a Latina for almost seven years, hit your mid-thirties and make no forward progress whatsoever toward the marriage front.

Go hit the gym to get your self-esteem up since it always takes a hit when a relationship self destructs, go have fun with your hobbies, go out with your friends. Go have a healthy relationship with yourself, and one with someone else will follow it. I've waded through a lot of truly toxic relationships before I figured that one out.

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Originally Posted by XiP

I'll turn 30 in several months and I've never been in a relationship or kissed a girl

We're working on that, even if we have to pool some funds and sent you to the Bunny Ranch.

blackcherry20 · 11-04-2013, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

Stop it. No more contact with exs. Period. She waived her right to contact you.

Sounds like you were carrying a bad teammate. When her family and friends say things like that, it means you were saving her from herself and they liked you for that. Still means you're the one getting the short end of the stick.

Sounding more and more like you've dodged a bullet.

Stop worrying about pressure to get married, or being a certain age. You want to talk pressure? Date a Latina for almost seven years, hit your mid-thirties and make no forward progress whatsoever toward the marriage front.

Go hit the gym to get your self-esteem up since it always takes a hit when a relationship self destructs, go have fun with your hobbies, go out with your friends. Go have a healthy relationship with yourself, and one with someone else will follow it. I've waded through a lot of truly toxic relationships before I figured that one out.

We're working on that, even if we have to pool some funds and sent you to the Bunny Ranch.

WOW! lots of good sense in this ^^^
sorry-hope I am not intruding as I am not single.

Chuck33079 · 11-04-2013, 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by blackcherry20

WOW! lots of good sense in this ^^^
sorry-hope I am not intruding as I am not single.

Not at all. Getting some advice from women is always helpful when dealing with women.

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