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Old 12-18-2015, 08:51 PM   #31 (permalink)
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... My bad asking for help.
You are not asking for help, you are asking for a handout. There's a (big) difference.

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... And to the ppl who hate on me asking for help. I hope you have major family losses. Can't repair your home's. Have to sell your car's and rot in he'll cause no one wanted to help you. Nah jk. Trust me it sucks. ...
How sweet of you. Did it ever occur to you that many people have been through even worse?

Yep, it sucks, but Life's a bitch and the only thing you can do when she knocks you down is pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and give it another shot. Being a success in life (however you care to define it) does not come easy and it doesn't come fast.
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Good luck, OP. You obviously need it.

This is honestly quite ridiculous. You lack any semblance of personal responsibility whatsoever. I understand you've been dealt a tough hand at life, but the financial decisions you've made are irrational, and the fact that you defend them in this thread shows you really aren't taking things seriously.

You say you have a good job, yet you can't afford $15k in maintenance items. A person in that position would under no circumstances take on a vehicle loan. I don't care if it's for a sports car or an Accord. If you can't save $15k in 12 months or so, you drive a $500 beater, and nothing more. This is basic personal finance.

What you are asking for is not help. The fact that you have a job and have a sports car you are making payments on is proof alone that you could help yourself if you were serious and willing to sacrifice.

You are asking for a handout. In an environment where there are thousands and thousands of Americans in worse positions than you through no fault of their own this is downright offensive.
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Good luck, OP. You obviously need it.

This is honestly quite ridiculous. You lack any semblance of personal responsibility whatsoever. I understand you've been dealt a tough hand at life, but the financial decisions you've made are irrational, and the fact that you defend them in this thread shows you really aren't taking things seriously.

You say you have a good job, yet you can't afford $15k in maintenance items. A person in that position would under no circumstances take on a vehicle loan. I don't care if it's for a sports car or an Accord. If you can't save $15k in 12 months or so, you drive a $500 beater, and nothing more. This is basic personal finance.

What you are asking for is not help. The fact that you have a job and have a sports car you are making payments on is proof alone that you could help yourself if you were serious and willing to sacrifice.

You are asking for a handout. In an environment where there are thousands and thousands of Americans in worse positions than you through no fault of their own this is downright offensive.
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I am sorry for your loss, I loss my father last year to cancer. I believe most us weren't judging but advising you. Then you go on to wish ill will on to others is where you went wrong. Even jokingly, you are talking to strangers who can be much worst of than you.

If I were you, I would've sold everything and laid my father to rest properly. The house can be fixed one step at a time. You don't need $15k to fix a leak.

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What do you expect from a 28 year old? I do not know.... On my earlier post I said I would not judge you for who you are. But I think I would take that back, based from your arguments about your accord vs the Z and your $700 clutch failing truck and your failing house that you inherited from your late father. Hmmm....
Let me ask you this...your house just did not started to fall off the day your dad passed away, you knew for a fact that that house was in shambles and needed some repairs. I do not think this just happened overnight.
Why not or have you even extended assistance to your dad when he was alive to rebuild the house when your life was better? But yet you decided to go for your dream car of owning a Z instead of doing the right thing for your dad and the house. Now that is a $20 big difference way of thinking over there.

Why was it a priority now just because you where burdened by an inheritance of a house that is about to fall?
Son if you truly respect the memories of your good father, make him proud and build your home. Nothing wrong to ask help but help is being extended to those really in need.

What you need is a good advice how to fix your finances to cope up with your situation. I've been there many times in fact I failed many times miserably in life but I did find a way to bounce back and made it better.

As the old book of life says "teach a man how to fish and he will never go hungry"
Learn from this MAN and you will be RICH!
He had a heart attack. Died unexpected out of no where. I was helping him as much as I could at the time. And now I'm doing even better financially. Yes there is far more ppl in trouble. I'm not telling anyone to choose to help me or not. But I'm asking for it on expenses that regardless are out of my financial reach right now. Figured my fellow Z community would be cool enough to at least share my story and maybe get some help for stuff way out of my control right now. You guys are awesome
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He had a heart attack. Died unexpected out of no where. I was helping him as much as I could at the time. And now I'm doing even better financially. Yes there is far more ppl in trouble. I'm not telling anyone to choose to help me or not. But I'm asking for it on expenses that regardless are out of my financial reach right now. Figured my fellow Z community would be cool enough to at least share my story and maybe get some help for stuff way out of my control right now. You guys are awesome

Dude we are not being insensitive about your loss we respect that and we are sorry about your loss. Dude I'm not comparing and I'm not the type of person who dwells on my sorrows.

6 years from now my dad passed away in a hospital from a massive stroke, I could not even go home to see him while he was alive and wasn't even able to bury him for the fact I could not afford to buy airfare tickets to go home overseas, as I was just starting my life in here in the US, no credit history, no green card, no big credit limit. I had to say goodbye to him over the phone and seek forgiveness for my short comings.

Dude it was a Sunday when he passed away. Monday I went to work and gave my best to my patients to make them well even if my heart is crushed. I never asked anyone for anything, I never asked for sympathy or reprieve from my daily obligations. All I asked from my friends and love ones is to pray for me for strength and inner peace.

Dude this community is alive and very supportive to those who are in need. There is even a thread about a fellow forum member in Canada that passed away of cancer...the forum even opened up an account to support his wife and family as he was the bread winner of the family. We had to help him sell his mods, car parts and his Beloveded Z.

My advise tear down your gofundme.com and build your self up. Open a for sale thread of your mods and we would gladly assist you selling them. If you say your doing better financially then set your priorities and don't pass it along the responsibility to others. For me that is irresponsible and coward. I'm sorry no better word to describe it.

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Home is under a locked trust in my family's name. I can't apply For a equity loan. And if I could I probably can't afford more payments on things right now. My priorities are the taxes on the home. Bills. Car so I can continue to work. (Those Both just failed) and having food. I'm stable enough to do all I need to. But no I don't have Gibbs of money to throw at my failing home. So if someone would like to help me fix it up so I can continue to have it. Cool. Also I'll be selling things. Thanks for the support of you wish to help.
Locked trust in your family's name? So you can't sell the house, or borrow against it? Who the rest of the named people on the title, can they not help. As mentioned repairs can be done in stages.... You can get a part time job in the evenings...I was left my Dad's house when he past a few years back too, thing was a mess, other then the huge brand new shop on a 5 acre chunk of land. Couldn't afford to fix it, so it got sold. Maybe you need to talk to who ever else this house is in trust to and either then need to help with repairs or sign off so you can sell or borrow against it.
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Trust has no current beneficiary. My father was the last on it. I'm intitled to it but I'll have to hire a lawyer and go to court to have it all fixed and that is not a priority for me right now I don't nearly have time or extra money for that process.the accord I purchased with my dad's cosigniture because neither of us had a car.. his truck just broke... So we had to do something fast and needed something reliable that could fit us. Then he died 3 months later. So I worked hard and had the accord but found the Z for about the same payments so I got it cause it was my dream and I expected it to last longer then the accord kill two birds with one stone. Yeas I could probably over the course of a few years save up to fix the house. Not sure if it will last that long tho... So yep call it whatever you want. Asking for handouts. Help. Begging. Idc. It's a problem that is important and something I can't fix myself right now and not sure if I have enough time time to save. So I asked for handouts cool. And post things to sell. G G. Also there are deff way worse ppl then me that need help. I know. I donate money to work charity and give the homeless doods money when I have a few bucks in the car. Doesn't mean I can afford every problem in life. And any help I can get at this point to fix my roof and stuff is amazingly appreciated. I've been through he'll and dragged my self out of most of it. So think what you like about my page. If no one wants to help me that's fine.
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I don't know about Ohio, but shouldn't the next of kin of the current listed beneficiary be next in line automatically?

Did you keep the stock parts for your car? Maybe going back to stock and selling things like wheels, radio, etc could help with the cash shortage?

Also, was the term on the Accord loan the same as the term on the Z loan? You keep saying the payment is only a $20 difference, but is that the real cost?
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My Z is about to go away for winter maybe I should jump on the wagon for a gofundme too.

Call it FP's GT-R fund
Lets both start the pgh fund and share it
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Ok haha cause I can just get more hours at work, it doesn't work like that. And obviously you didn't read what happened nor did I explain everything. My father lived and died trying to keep that house together as best he could And now I have to. And yes I can't afford 15k in repairs like that. So get off your ******* high horse dood, I came here asking for genuine help as someone who already worked hard to get where I'm at after everyone in my ******* family has died. But thanks for your support buddy. Also both my cars are broke, one is a shitty 700$ truck I had to fit into weeks of paychecks just so I dont ruin my Z, so that I have a nice back up car and something I love. after my dad died I got ****** so hard, and built my life back into somewhat stable. Go yell at the rich Kid asking for money for a 90k$ tesla! If your not here to be kind or be supportive then Idc what you think, at least im not asking for money for ******** like the guy who got 45k for a potato salad!

Also Economical was my accord, that was only 20$cheaper a month on payments so hell yeah Ill spend 20$ to finance my Z. Thanks for the support.
You could get a second, or third job. Even part-time.

Sorry, but this is just begging for a handout. Sell your vehicles, buy something that runs and is cheap. Fix what you need to, then work on getting more toys.
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Trust has no current beneficiary. My father was the last on it. I'm intitled to it but I'll have to hire a lawyer and go to court to have it all fixed and that is not a priority for me right now I don't nearly have time or extra money for that process.the accord I purchased with my dad's cosigniture because neither of us had a car.. his truck just broke... So we had to do something fast and needed something reliable that could fit us. Then he died 3 months later. So I worked hard and had the accord but found the Z for about the same payments so I got it cause it was my dream and I expected it to last longer then the accord kill two birds with one stone. Yeas I could probably over the course of a few years save up to fix the house. Not sure if it will last that long tho... So yep call it whatever you want. Asking for handouts. Help. Begging. Idc. It's a problem that is important and something I can't fix myself right now and not sure if I have enough time time to save. So I asked for handouts cool. And post things to sell. G G. Also there are deff way worse ppl then me that need help. I know. I donate money to work charity and give the homeless doods money when I have a few bucks in the car. Doesn't mean I can afford every problem in life. And any help I can get at this point to fix my roof and stuff is amazingly appreciated. I've been through he'll and dragged my self out of most of it. So think what you like about my page. If no one wants to help me that's fine.
Isn't the whole point of this gofundme thing to save the house? Right now it's not really yours free and clear...shouldn't that be the priority? Seems like a small investment in getting this house in your name and sole ownership would solve most of your problems. You could at that point borrow against the house to fix it, and your car.

And let me state the obvious, but the title of this thread is "Don't kill me guys", so you knew this was not appropriate from the start.

Have you even checked with the dealership if it is the SL and if it's covered under the recall?
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Isn't the whole point of this gofundme thing to save the house? Right now it's not really yours free and clear...shouldn't that be the priority? Seems like a small investment in getting this house in your name and sole ownership would solve most of your problems. You could at that point borrow against the house to fix it, and your car.



Have you even checked with the dealership if it is the SL and if it's covered under the recall?

Every bit of this. It makes a lot more sense to get the title issues cleared up before doing anything else. Why even put money into a house not in your name?
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