Age Gap

Cmike2780 · 06-08-2011, 04:34 PM

Personally, my window is usually 2 years over, 10 years younger. It depends on the person, but people usually want different things at say 21 vs. 31. Don't get me wrong, younger chicks are fun, but those relationships tend to fizzle out rather quickly. Then again you only live once (that I know of). If you think about it, it's kind of stupid to set limits on who you end up with based on the arbitrary rotation of the Earth. Anyway, Life's too short for rules.... unless of course she's under 17, that'll get you 3-7.

2ndChance · 06-08-2011, 04:38 PM

I dated a 12 years old when I was 17.

And it seemed like I was the 12 year old and she the 17.

You guys are right, it all depends on the maturity.

FL 4Motion · 06-08-2011, 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I dated a 12 years old when I was 17.

And it seemed like I was the 12 year old and she the 17.

You guys are right, it all depends on the maturity.

Jamaica · 06-08-2011, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by FL 4Motion

lol

birdmanx1 · 06-08-2011, 07:12 PM

As long as both 'mature/legal age' parties know what they are getting into, more power to them.

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I'm done.

Nismoracer · 06-08-2011, 08:33 PM

You guys dont think her parents might flip out? She has already dropped a hint that her dad may not be to happy bout it. Dont wanna see my boy on the 6 0'. We were talkin and dont understand the rush for her to intro her parents. Dont know if they plan a family outting or something.

m4a1mustang · 06-09-2011, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Nismoracer

You guys dont think her parents might flip out? She has already dropped a hint that her dad may not be to happy bout it. Dont wanna see my boy on the 6 0'. We were talkin and dont understand the rush for her to intro her parents. Dont know if they plan a family outting or something.

Depends on her family I guess. Maybe certain cultures wouldn't be OK with it, maybe others would.

wstar · 06-09-2011, 07:45 AM

Well, there's evidence from real psych studies that on average it's better for a relationship if the woman is younger than the man, and practical experience seems to bear that out in the real world. Most of my girlfriends over time have been ~2-5 years younger than me (talking mostly when I was in my 20's). My most recent girlfriend was roughly a 10 year gap (23 vs 33 at the start). That one was really borderline in the after-analysis.

We had enough in common that it worked very well for the first 6 months or so, but then we moved in together and things went slowly downhill, and looking back on the reasons why, it was mostly about the age difference. It wasn't necessarily raw maturity, just things like differences in where you're at in life: what goals you're after, what kind of news about the world interests you, what level of cynicism you have about certain things, what your priorities are, level of experience with relationship issues, etc.

All in all it lasted about 2 years although I'd say after the first 1.5 years the last bit was wasted time, just sticking together out of habit for a bit. Based on coming out of that experience, at 35 now, I think my new bar would be an absolute minimum of 28, but hopefully someone 30+.

2ndChance · 06-09-2011, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by FL 4Motion

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

Rui Z · 06-09-2011, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

Dude, Khloe is fugly.

fullmonty · 06-09-2011, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rui Z

Dude, Khloe is fugly.

^This

For what it's worth I seem to date women 3-5 years older than me. One because everyone I hang out with are about 3-5 years older than myself and two I really don't feel like dealing with some drunk 22 year old girl throwing up all over the place. I like girls who have figured out their limits and know what they want out of life

FL 4Motion · 06-10-2011, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I'm telling you, she was like the young kim kardashian's sister.

dude, she was 12, and you were 17. I know there's a some girls out there that mature early, look older etc, but come on, 12 is still a kid, and 17 is almost an adult.

there's plenty of fish in the sea, you can't possibly tell me that out of all the poon in the 15-19 yo range running around at the time, this 12 yo was the one who captured your heart/c0ck more than any other?

fullmonty · 06-10-2011, 01:42 PM

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, this 12 yo was the one who captured your heart/c0ck more than any other?

For what it's worth I'm pretty sure he may of captured her.

eagle55 · 06-10-2011, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by fullmonty

For what it's worth I'm pretty sure he may of captured her.

PapoZalsa · 07-27-2011, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by 2ndChance

I dated a 12 years old when I was 17.

And it seemed like I was the 12 year old and she the 17.

You guys are right, it all depends on the maturity.

06-08-2011, 04:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
Cmike2780 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Long Island Posts: 5,059 Drives: slowwww Rep Power: 31	Personally, my window is usually 2 years over, 10 years younger. It depends on the person, but people usually want different things at say 21 vs. 31. Don't get me wrong, younger chicks are fun, but those relationships tend to fizzle out rather quickly. Then again you only live once (that I know of). If you think about it, it's kind of stupid to set limits on who you end up with based on the arbitrary rotation of the Earth. Anyway, Life's too short for rules.... unless of course she's under 17, that'll get you 3-7. __________________ [09][MB][6-Spd MT][Touring][Stillen Gen III][K&N][Borla CBE][Evo-R] [ArchitTEK Photography]

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wstar A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 4,024 Drives: too slow Rep Power: 3596	Well, there's evidence from real psych studies that on average it's better for a relationship if the woman is younger than the man, and practical experience seems to bear that out in the real world. Most of my girlfriends over time have been ~2-5 years younger than me (talking mostly when I was in my 20's). My most recent girlfriend was roughly a 10 year gap (23 vs 33 at the start). That one was really borderline in the after-analysis. We had enough in common that it worked very well for the first 6 months or so, but then we moved in together and things went slowly downhill, and looking back on the reasons why, it was mostly about the age difference. It wasn't necessarily raw maturity, just things like differences in where you're at in life: what goals you're after, what kind of news about the world interests you, what level of cynicism you have about certain things, what your priorities are, level of experience with relationship issues, etc. All in all it lasted about 2 years although I'd say after the first 1.5 years the last bit was wasted time, just sticking together out of habit for a bit. Based on coming out of that experience, at 35 now, I think my new bar would be an absolute minimum of 28, but hopefully someone 30+. __________________ 7AT Track Car! Journal thread / Car setup details

06-08-2011, 04:38 PM	#2 (permalink)
2ndChance Base Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Panama Posts: 240 Drives: like he stole it Rep Power: 201	I dated a 12 years old when I was 17. And it seemed like I was the 12 year old and she the 17. You guys are right, it all depends on the maturity.

06-08-2011, 08:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
Nismoracer Enthusiast Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Earth Posts: 420 Drives: 10 Nismo Rep Power: 16	You guys dont think her parents might flip out? She has already dropped a hint that her dad may not be to happy bout it. Dont wanna see my boy on the 6 0'. We were talkin and dont understand the rush for her to intro her parents. Dont know if they plan a family outting or something.