My wife said no!

kdo2milger · 09-17-2009, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Inspector71

Here is where the deal stands. My youngest brother David was an accountant with a car dealer. He says McCarthy Nissan is giving me no break on the price but charging sticker. He says I should wait about a month. Either the car will be sold or it will not. If the former, wait until next year and buy the 2010 model. If the latter, they will call me knowing that sportscars often don't sell well in the fall in the Midwest. Second, I talked with my wife about this at length. I have been through one divorce (my ex ran off with someone else and the gold digger taught me the meaning of Jerry Reed's song, She got the Goldmine..). It is better to win her over. I told her the decision was mine, stated my reasons, and she said okay. She asked me to wait my brother's "one month." I failed to mention two other concerns. This car would have to be my daily driver. Winters in Missouri are nothing compared to Maryland where I used to live. But, we might have 6 to 12 days in which I might have to drive to work in snow (I'm a teacher and we get some snow days off). Does this change the equation for anyone? This is a gamble somewhat, but now the choice is back to being mine. I hope to join the club in some 30 days...

sounds good...you should keep on the dealer though...they should at the very least be giving you invoice right now...

i would just go in the dealership and tell the sales manager "i will give you invoice on that z today, if you cant give it to me for invoice, well then heres my number, call me when/if your ready to deal" walk away...in a few days, maybe a week, if they are hungry enough they will bite...

Inspector71 · 09-17-2009, 08:25 AM

Thanks for all the help. When you say invoice, do you mean the msrp or the final sticker? The paper in the window has an msrp of 29K+. The final price is 31K+. They want to give me 20K for my SUV and 1K for the 86 Rx7. They came up with a price of 35K for the Z based on the payoff difference on the SUV (I owe 25,600). I figure they are adding the 6 grand payoff difference to the Z, discounting 1 grand for my Mazda, which comes out to 36 grand. Then they must have discounted the Z 1 grand. Would you go for this? I thought they should come down 2 grand more. What do you think? Right now they are offering a payment of $554. Again, I am close.

John Bradley · 09-17-2009, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

Yea..grow a pair.....If you let her handle the monet then you are a fool....First off let me say nowhere...and I mean nowhere does it say anywhere that the guy has to give his wife the paycheck or let her handle the financial responsibilities in a marriage.

When I got married 14 years ago my wife said she would take care of being the bill payment maker in the household. I told her that I was perfectly capable of doing that job myself. I told her in no uncertain terms that I was NOT going to be handing her my paychecks as I earned and I will pay the household bills. I then turned around and also stated that I expect to receive from her every paycheck of hers that fraction of money out of each of her paychecks relative to our respective earnings.

When I bought the 1997 Cobra Mustang she didn't say anything. A year later I bought her a new van she wanted. After two years she began make noise about the Cobra. I eventually sold it ti shut her mouth up. I bought an XTerra at that time. After 3 years in the XTerra I saw the new (at that time) 2003 Mustang Cobra with the stock blower. I mentioned it to her and she said "NO". I turned right around that next weekend and went out and traded the XTerra and bought the 2003 Cobra Mustang and laid $4000 down.

I brought it home and she blew her top. I proceded to to her that the first time she bitched, moaned and groaned over the 1997 Cobra, I got rid of it much to my consternation. I said that I didn't want to hear a damn thing about the 2003 Cobra because if she does this time she is the one whom I am going to put out the door.

She said I wouldn't dare...and I came right back and said watch me. I then told her that I raised 5 kids of hers without an ounce of child support coming in from her ex. I also stated that I had a new 2000 sq-foot house built for us and all new furniture for the entire new house. I have made sure that all bills have been paid and food on the table. And I am the one that bought her a 2006 XTerra to replaced the aged van. And I was able to do all that by working my damn *** off since the day we got married.

I then told her there will never be a day in this marriage where she will ever say to me again NO when I want something for myself because I sure as hell earned every damn penny of it and then some.

She made some grumbles when I bought my 370Z but all I said to her was remember what I told you several years ago...I reminder her to not even make the mistake of thinking I wouldn't put her out.

My paycheck is my money...I worked for it...I earned it....I'm the one that paid for my entire college and graduated with a degree so I could make better money back in the 70's while she was out spreading her legs and having 5 kids by 2 other men - the kids I all ended up raising in those 14 years. So I'm the one who is going to control how it gets spent....because I did my g-damn time!!!!

Wow.. I can't believe SHE stayed with you this long !!!

kdo2milger · 09-17-2009, 09:10 AM

one thing i see wrong with the current deal you got with that dealer is if they arent willing to come off msrp then they arent worth messing with...

FuszNissan is less than 4 hours from you and he will do better...

another good thing to get out of going to St L is making a day trip out of it, taking the wifey site seeing, and light lunch or early dinner then head back home...or better yet spend the night in a 4 star hotel over looking the city...if your ole lady is into that sort of thing...helps her feel better about the whole deal too...

ZKindaGuy · 09-17-2009, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by John Bradley

Wow.. I can't believe SHE stayed with you this long !!!

Why? Because I didn't allow myself to be socially brainwashed by the COSMO girls? I wasn't aware there were so many Z-owners who were ball-less wonders.

John Bradley · 09-21-2009, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

Why? Because I didn't allow myself to be socially brainwashed by the COSMO girls? I wasn't aware there were so many Z-owners who were ball-less wonders.

Your responses make our case !!!!
POUND SAND !!

dad · 09-17-2009, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

Yea..grow a pair.....If you let her handle the money then you are a fool....First off let me say nowhere...and I mean nowhere does it say anywhere that the guy has to give his wife the paycheck or let her handle the financial responsibilities in a marriage.

When I got married 14 years ago my wife said she would take care of being the bill payment maker in the household. I told her that I was perfectly capable of doing that job myself. I told her in no uncertain terms that I was NOT going to be handing her my paychecks as I earned and I will pay the household bills. I then turned around and also stated that I expect to receive from her every paycheck of hers that fraction of money out of each of her paychecks relative to our respective earnings.

When I bought the 1997 Cobra Mustang she didn't say anything. A year later I bought her a new van she wanted. After two years she began make noise about the Cobra. I eventually sold it ti shut her mouth up. I bought an XTerra at that time. After 3 years in the XTerra I saw the new (at that time) 2003 Mustang Cobra with the stock blower. I mentioned it to her and she said "NO". I turned right around that next weekend and went out and traded the XTerra and bought the 2003 Cobra Mustang and laid $4000 down.

I brought it home and she blew her top. I proceded to to her that the first time she bitched, moaned and groaned over the 1997 Cobra, I got rid of it much to my consternation. I said that I didn't want to hear a damn thing about the 2003 Cobra because if she does this time she is the one whom I am going to put out the door.

She said I wouldn't dare...and I came right back and said watch me. I then told her that I raised 5 kids of hers without an ounce of child support coming in from her ex. I also stated that I had a new 2000 sq-foot house built for us and all new furniture for the entire new house. I have made sure that all bills have been paid and food on the table. And I am the one that bought her a 2006 XTerra to replaced the aged van. And I was able to do all that by working my damn *** off since the day we got married.

I then told her there will never be a day in this marriage where she will ever say to me again NO when I want something for myself because I sure as hell earned every damn penny of it and then some.

She made some grumbles when I bought my 370Z but all I said to her was remember what I told you several years ago...I reminder her to not even make the mistake of thinking I wouldn't put her out.

My paycheck is my money...I worked for it...I earned it....I'm the one that paid for my entire college and graduated with a degree so I could make better money back in the 70's while she was out spreading her legs and having 5 kids by 2 other men - the kids I all ended up raising in those 14 years. So I'm the one who is going to control how it gets spent....because I did my g-damn time!!!!

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

kdo2milger · 09-17-2009, 08:34 PM

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Originally Posted by dad

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

Sardis · 09-17-2009, 08:36 PM

This guy is over 50.. I mean damn, it's not like he is in his mid 20s with no savings and his career is in flux or whatever..

Sorry, but if you can't get a little enjoyment at that age after working hard for so long, something is wrong..

I say go you for going for it. You never know what tomorrow can bring, enjoy life while you can

ZKindaGuy · 09-17-2009, 09:22 PM

BINGO. It unfortunate that many men less than 45 years of age have been brainwashed into thinking they have to get in touch with some non-existent "feminine side" in order to be able to have a good marriage.

Those kinds of "men" don't even realize they have been completely dominated. I compare it to a person smiling and saying "thank-you to a cop who just gave him a speeding ticket........completely owned by another person.

ZKindaGuy · 09-17-2009, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by dad

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

Actually she came down the steps and came over to read it while I was writing tonight. Her sum-total reaction was "UMPH".

She understands where her bread gets its butter.

dad · 09-17-2009, 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

back in the 70's while she was out spreading her legs and having 5 kids by 2 other men - the kids I all ended up raising in those 14 years. So I'm the one who is going to control how it gets spent....because I did my g-damn time!!!!

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

She understands where her bread gets its butter.

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy

I never said I didn't respect heer

You call these statements, you have made respectful?

ZKindaGuy · 09-17-2009, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by dad

You call these statements, you have made respectful?

I took a stance because I don't feel I have to ask permission for something that is really MY DECISION to make for myself, particularly so when she is wanton for nothing.

You people all sound like a bunch of spineless automatons. How sad and pathetic....

Brazilbro · 09-16-2009, 01:49 AM

kenchan · 09-16-2009, 09:32 AM

so... OP, did you take the car to carmax to get the free appraisal?

09-17-2009, 08:25 AM	#2 (permalink)
Inspector71 Enthusiast Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Lee's Summit Missouri Posts: 337 Drives: 2015 Pearl White Z Rep Power: 16	kdo2milger Thanks for all the help. When you say invoice, do you mean the msrp or the final sticker? The paper in the window has an msrp of 29K+. The final price is 31K+. They want to give me 20K for my SUV and 1K for the 86 Rx7. They came up with a price of 35K for the Z based on the payoff difference on the SUV (I owe 25,600). I figure they are adding the 6 grand payoff difference to the Z, discounting 1 grand for my Mazda, which comes out to 36 grand. Then they must have discounted the Z 1 grand. Would you go for this? I thought they should come down 2 grand more. What do you think? Right now they are offering a payment of $554. Again, I am close.

09-17-2009, 09:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
kdo2milger OG Priesthood Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Fargo, ND Posts: 17,859 Drives: NISMO T Rep Power: 60	Inspector71 one thing i see wrong with the current deal you got with that dealer is if they arent willing to come off msrp then they arent worth messing with... FuszNissan is less than 4 hours from you and he will do better... another good thing to get out of going to St L is making a day trip out of it, taking the wifey site seeing, and light lunch or early dinner then head back home...or better yet spend the night in a 4 star hotel over looking the city...if your ole lady is into that sort of thing...helps her feel better about the whole deal too... __________________ Project *NISMO*

09-17-2009, 08:36 PM	#9 (permalink)
Sardis Base Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: CA Posts: 72 Drives: EX Z Owner Rep Power: 17	This guy is over 50.. I mean damn, it's not like he is in his mid 20s with no savings and his career is in flux or whatever.. Sorry, but if you can't get a little enjoyment at that age after working hard for so long, something is wrong.. I say go you for going for it. You never know what tomorrow can bring, enjoy life while you can __________________ "Because in a split second, it's gone." - Ayrton Senna

09-17-2009, 09:22 PM	#10 (permalink)
ZKindaGuy Track Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ohio Posts: 699 Drives: 370Z-AT7 Tour+Sport Rep Power: 376	BINGO. It unfortunate that many men less than 45 years of age have been brainwashed into thinking they have to get in touch with some non-existent "feminine side" in order to be able to have a good marriage. Those kinds of "men" don't even realize they have been completely dominated. I compare it to a person smiling and saying "thank-you to a cop who just gave him a speeding ticket........completely owned by another person. Last edited by ZKindaGuy; 09-17-2009 at 09:27 PM.

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