Over 30 and still single, post here.

DIGItonium

No, I believe we're meeting up since it was a general "Are you going to be there?"

You're right, the over thinking and putting her on the pedestal mentality is bad. That's not my intention. My nerves are calm now... just figuring out the correct approach and not make the same mistakes.

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Misnomer

I hope you guys don't mind me jumping in: I'm relatively new to the forum and just discovered this thread. I've read the whole thing, though, and am pulling for ya DIGI!

I'm 42 and single, and I'm also a chick...a fat chick who is picky and old (in dating years). Women can be one or two of those things, but not all three.

(I look 30 and am cute enough to still get laid if/when I want to, so I'm really not complaining. As others have mentioned, there are lots of great things about being single with no kids. Having a Z as my daily driver is one of them. Sure in a perfect world I'd prefer not to be alone, but for the most part I like my life. I'm also not trying very hard to meet anyone right now: e.g., I have an OKCupid profile, but I hardly ever go to the site.)

I hear this all the time, but I don't necessarily agree: the key is to see the movie before you go for dinner/coffee, so that you can talk about it. Having a movie to discuss can be a great way to break the ice with someone new and get the conversational ball rolling, plus sometimes you can discover a lot about people based on how they react to stuff in movies.

Girls might prefer that, but women don't mind pulling their weight/having some input.

Truth.

More truth.

Chuck33079

The more female input in here the better as far as I'm concerned.

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Cmike2780

Although I see your point, I'm gonna disagree only because that's never the case unless you're still in high school. A movie you both just saw is never a great ice breaker. You spent 2 hours just watching it, no one really wants to talk about it right after seeing it. It's boring conversation just thinking about it. This is why something like an art gallery or another activity is so much better. You talk while doing said activity. If women could imagine a perfect date, I seriously doubt going to the movies on the first date is one of them. Sure there are exceptions, but they're exceptions for a reason. I'd be creeped out if you were staring at me and watching my reactions during a movie on a first date.

Gonna kinda disagree on this one too. It's not about pulling your weight, it's about taking the initiative. It's totally normal when you're IN a relationship, but makes the guy look weak and unorganized when you're still just dating. The mindset of girls and women are one and the same. Wiser, yes, but the same nevertheless

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Chuck33079

Just do whatever you want to do. If you feel like going to a club, go. Personally, I despise clubs. In your situation, I would get some buddies and go to an acceptable bar close to the club she's going to. That way, you can avoid the club but still tell her "I'm right around the corner at X. Come have a drink with me before/after you go to the club".

You've hedged your bet for a good night. If she shows up, great. If not, you're at a bar with some buddies shooting the ****. Also, you've made her come to you. That will show you if she's interested or not. If she can't be bothered, That tells you something.

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