what if someone wants to drive your Z ??

felix0121

Hey, Chuck. Seriously, let me calm down myself first, and now I say that it is absolutely okay for me that you say any of your opinions freely in this forum.

For me what matters is your way to say a thing. Please say anything just in a right way. I got upset very much when I saw you used those insulting terms 'socially awkward BS' toward me.

Maybe it seems like you already forgot that, but now I'm still remembering a happening that last time on my another thread you kept showing sarcastic response even after I had apologized for any inconvenience sincerely to you. (at least I felt so even though it was not intended)

It drove me crazy at that time because I thought it was inappropriate, and today I got bursted based on that.

I'm now an US resident but I'm not a native American, I was not born here, what worse is that English is not my mother tongue (even though I'm trying hard to improve it by myself), and I'm from a different culture. If I do not know how to behave polite in this country, I do agree to that it is my own problem and I need to fix it up anyway.

I don't want to make any trouble. I want to believe you are a good guy in the real world, but we've never met each other and even on this Internet we can easily misunderstand each other's nuance or intention. I have always done my best to keep my manners here. I'm a human, not a machine that I do have my emotions too. I hope we do not hurt each other anymore.

About that saying 'no' - well.. in fact, personally I'm so afraid of those who get angry to me when rejected (it seems so unreasonable) or those who try to take advantage of me when I gently say 'no' to them. Some people that I had met in my life, they did not stop there even when I really said 'no' - rather they kept trying to pursuade me. It was so stressful. Therefore later I made my own decision that I'd better keep silence with my poker face and not give any response to them rather than having risk for any possible argument.

That was a story.. It's still a kind of dilemma to me. If I say 'no', a case might go worse. If I do not say anything, then it might be rude..

Chuck33079

No worries, man. Here's the thing - you're both overthinking this and doing yourself a disservice by not responding. A simple, polite NO is all they're entitled to. Not an explanation or apology. If that doesn't convince them, a hearty "**** off" will solve the problem real quick. You don't owe them anything. Unless they pay your bills or let you put your **** in them, then they don't matter. If they no longer want to associate with you because you won't lend them your property (which you would be liable for any catastrophe regardless of them being behind the wheel) then you have removed a worthless person from your life. That's a positive outcome.

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