What is wrong with society?

LadyZ · 01-05-2014, 12:48 PM

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frost · 01-05-2014, 01:00 PM

Unfortunately, the world is full of a-holes. I had similarly bad experiences with online dating, and gave up on it.

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One of the weaknesses of online dating is an over reliance on "profiles," the researchers say. Although most dating websites feature photos and detailed, searchable profiles covering everything from personality traits to likes and dislikes, this information isn't necessarily useful in identifying a partner, Finkel and his coauthors write.

That's partly because daters don't always know what they want in a mate -- even though they generally think they do. Studies suggest that people often lack insight into what attracts them to others (and why), and therefore the characteristics they seek out in an online profile may be very different from those that will create a connection in person, the review notes.

Health.com: Finding love online, despite health problems

"Pretty much all of online dating works through profiles," says Finkel, an associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, in Evanston, Illinois. "But you can spend a zillion hours studying profile after profile and, at the end of that Herculean effort, how much closer are you to knowing if there's a romantic spark?"

The abundance of profiles online also may make daters too picky and judgmental, the authors say. The sheer number of options can be overwhelming, and the ease with which people can sift through profiles -- and click on to the next one -- may lead them to "objectify" potential partners and compare them like so many pairs of shoes.

"Online dating creates a shopping mentality, and that is probably not a particularly good way to go about choosing a mate," says Harry Reis, Ph.D., one of the review's authors and a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester Medical Center, in Rochester, New York.

Psychologists highlight pitfalls of online dating - CNN.com

Huckleberry · 01-05-2014, 01:08 PM

I don't bother with dating sites. Plenty of a-holes pretending to be decent people.

6MT · 01-05-2014, 01:10 PM

Jasonle · 01-05-2014, 02:17 PM

I don't bother with those kind of sites either. Good luck in your search!

cdoxp800 · 01-05-2014, 02:30 PM

Wow.. What an @ss..

winnre · 01-05-2014, 02:41 PM

Some guys feel if you are not there to tell them how awesome they are then you suck. He needs a mommy.

wrxrcr · 01-05-2014, 03:48 PM

I tired match a long time ago, i wasn't looking for a skinny rail but at least someone that took care of themselves. Every response i got was from 200+ lb women. I am sorry but if i am not attracted to you there can be no relationship, call me an ******* if you will.
That being said that guy is way out of line and an embarrassment to the firefighter profession.

winnre · 01-05-2014, 04:00 PM

I used match.com when I lived in Tampa. Found a nice women who wanted me to buy her a nice wedding present. She wanted an airplane. I can't afford that. So she left.

axmea? · 01-05-2014, 05:19 PM

Dude's on roids. Little things sets him off.

Frost -- I just noticed. Lot's of oops spilled on Canada. Then the borders opened.

Z-Girl 12 · 01-05-2014, 07:53 PM

Wow...

Gadgetech · 01-05-2014, 08:15 PM

What a douche canoe...

rAiN · 01-05-2014, 08:47 PM

if you didn't like his profile, why didn't you just click next and move on to other guy? instead of sending him a judgmental message of going about how YOU don't like the profile blah blah blah. shouldn't have wasted your time doing that, that *******-ness is what makes him, him.

also, that profile message does not sounds like its written in angry tone at all.

shadoquad · 01-05-2014, 08:52 PM

Honestly, his profile reeked of insecurity, and then you made him feel self conscious by giving him even a small bit of constructive criticism. Guy's a train wreck lol, so don't worry about his shallow response. You're above it.

Super Werty · 01-05-2014, 09:00 PM

I didnt think his original profile sounded angry at all. He sounds like he is serious about wanting a relationship and no more single dates. What you wrote to him was condescending and pretty nosey.

His responses were out of line after that, but I think you stepped right into it honestly.

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winnre Track Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: Close to Redlands, CA Posts: 534 Drives: '14 370Z Touring Spt Rep Power: 14	Some guys feel if you are not there to tell them how awesome they are then you suck. He needs a mommy. Z-Girl 12 likes this.

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wrxrcr Base Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: columbus Posts: 74 Drives: 12 370z,09 Wrx Rep Power: 13	I tired match a long time ago, i wasn't looking for a skinny rail but at least someone that took care of themselves. Every response i got was from 200+ lb women. I am sorry but if i am not attracted to you there can be no relationship, call me an ******* if you will. That being said that guy is way out of line and an embarrassment to the firefighter profession.

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winnre Track Member Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: Close to Redlands, CA Posts: 534 Drives: '14 370Z Touring Spt Rep Power: 14	I used match.com when I lived in Tampa. Found a nice women who wanted me to buy her a nice wedding present. She wanted an airplane. I can't afford that. So she left.

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rAiN Track Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: va Posts: 721 Drives: 2012 370z mt Rep Power: 19	if you didn't like his profile, why didn't you just click next and move on to other guy? instead of sending him a judgmental message of going about how YOU don't like the profile blah blah blah. shouldn't have wasted your time doing that, that *******-ness is what makes him, him. also, that profile message does not sounds like its written in angry tone at all. m4a1mustang and Chuck33079 like this.

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shadoquad A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: . Posts: 42,608 Drives: . Rep Power: 3888	Honestly, his profile reeked of insecurity, and then you made him feel self conscious by giving him even a small bit of constructive criticism. Guy's a train wreck lol, so don't worry about his shallow response. You're above it. Chuck33079 and Huckleberry like this.

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Super Werty Track Member Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: AZ Posts: 668 Drives: '13 Sport Rep Power: 14	I didnt think his original profile sounded angry at all. He sounds like he is serious about wanting a relationship and no more single dates. What you wrote to him was condescending and pretty nosey. His responses were out of line after that, but I think you stepped right into it honestly. m4a1mustang and Chuck33079 like this. __________________ The Build

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