What is wrong with society?

Chuck33079 · 01-05-2014, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Super Werty

I didnt think his original profile sounded angry at all. He sounds like he is serious about wanting a relationship and no more single dates. What you wrote to him was condescending and pretty nosey.

His responses were out of line after that, but I think you stepped right into it honestly.

Couldn't have said it better myself. If you don't like someone's profile, move on.

Cell · 01-05-2014, 09:15 PM

People's opinions tend to hurt others. Whatever he said obviously made an impact on you when it shouldn't have. Have to learn to take peoples opinion like a grain of salt. Plus, it goes both ways, ever thought maybe what you said hurt him in some way or form? Maybe that is why he came back at you with what he said?

Skinny or over weight, it seems like you aren't happy with yourself either way. Not happy when guys hit on you when you used to be skinny and not happy with how society treats you when you are not skinny?

I am not trying to be an a-hole but maybe you are looking at the wrong place for a relationship.

Chuck33079 · 01-05-2014, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Cell

People's opinions tend to hurt others. Whatever he said obviously made an impact on you when it shouldn't have. Have to learn to take peoples opinion like a grain of salt. Plus, it goes both ways, ever thought maybe what you said hurt him in some way or form? Maybe that is why he came back at you with what he said?

Skinny or over weight, it seems like you aren't happy with yourself either way. Not happy when guys hit on you when you used to be skinny and not happy with how society treats you when you are not skinny?

I am not trying to be an a-hole but maybe you are looking at the wrong place for a relationship.

Yeah. There's as many red flags with her as there are with him.

Cell · 01-05-2014, 09:22 PM

If I was a female, I would love the attention I get from guys if I was hot. Shiet, I love the attention from females as a male. Not sure why anyone would hate it, only boosts your morale and makes you feel wanted.

shadoquad · 01-05-2014, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Cell

If I was a female, I would love the attention I get from guys if I was hot. Shiet, I love the attention from females as a male. Not sure why anyone would hate it, only boosts your morale and makes you feel wanted.

Well, for women who are hot, it's a problem, because sometimes they don't want to be holla'ed at by some lecher when they're just trying to get something done, and for guys who are hot, it's a problem, because condoms get expensive over time.

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Cell · 01-05-2014, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by shadoquad

Well, for women who are hot, it's a problem, because sometimes they don't want to be holla'ed at by some lecher when they're just trying to get something done, and for guys who are hot, it's a problem, because condoms get expensive over time.

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There are places that give free condoms LOL. Problem solved?

LadyZ · 01-05-2014, 09:37 PM

I wasn't being condescending or nosey. I was just trying to be helpful. People are on that site to find someone. It's not like I said for him to quit sounding like such a total ****. Guess I should just not bother and let people burn. It's stuff like that and comments like that which make the nice people not want to bother.

I love myself. Either way. Any way. That's it. I just think it's messed up to bring down someone just to make yourself feel better. I didn't at all take it personally. I know the dude was being a pissy little bitch. It happens. I just was annoyed how those very sentiments he expressed are what society says all the time about women. If they're not lined up in that perfect idea of how you think they should be, then they're not worth the dignity or respect. It's messed up.

Chuck33079 · 01-05-2014, 09:40 PM

The only problem with his profile was your interpretation of it. You should have just moved on. Instead you decided to send a response that seems fairly snarky to the rest of the world. He was completely out of line in his response, but you never should have opened your mouth in the first place.

LadyZ · 01-05-2014, 09:46 PM

Guess I just don't see how me being thoughtful and trying to help comes off as "snarky". It was a perfectly polite message.

Chuck33079 · 01-05-2014, 09:48 PM

It's as "helpful" a response as his profile was "angry". As in, not at all. In the future, if you don't like someone's profile, click the back button and go on about your day.

Super Werty · 01-05-2014, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyZ

Guess I just don't see how me being thoughtful and trying to help comes off as "snarky". It was a perfectly polite message.

maybe this is why you are single? You need to realize that your "thoughtfulness" can be sending off the complete opposite vibes.

I mean really, what did you think that guy would say? "oh yea you're right Ill change my profile right now and start talking to you"

I hate to be harsh but it sounds like you need a reality check. Guys dont like being told what to do or what to be. No one does. Especially not when its said in the very first sentence from someone you have never met before.

It wasnt polite, polite would be like "hey, how are you?"

LadyZ · 01-06-2014, 05:18 AM

I didn't think anything would come of it, and I didn't really want anything to come of it. I was literally just trying to be nice and bring to his attention something he may have not considered while writing it. I figured he'd take my suggestions into advisement and that would be it. That was my only purpose in sending the message as I thought I'd made clear through my word usage.

SouthArk370Z · 01-06-2014, 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyZ

I didn't think anything would come of it, and I didn't really want anything to come of it. I was literally just trying to be nice and bring to his attention something he may have not considered while writing it. I figured he'd take my suggestions into advisement and that would be it. That was my only purpose in sending the message as I thought I'd made clear through my word usage.

Obviously the guy is happy with the way he is - just as you claim to be happy with the way you are. It's just as obvious that you two weren't meant for each other. Put him on your ignore list and move on. And quit sending "helpful" messages to strangers - no good deed goes unpunished.

falconfixer · 01-06-2014, 07:10 AM

Match.com should be renamed to DTF.com

Almost everyone I work with that is on that site hooks up for one night stands.

LadyZ · 01-06-2014, 07:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SouthArk370Z

Obviously the guy is happy with the way he is - just as you claim to be happy with the way you are. It's just as obvious that you two weren't meant for each other. Put him on your ignore list and move on. And quit sending "helpful" messages to strangers - no good deed goes unpunished.

No good deed goes unpunished- the moral of this story.

01-05-2014, 09:15 PM	#17 (permalink)
Cell A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,449 Drives: A Garbage Truck Rep Power: 21	People's opinions tend to hurt others. Whatever he said obviously made an impact on you when it shouldn't have. Have to learn to take peoples opinion like a grain of salt. Plus, it goes both ways, ever thought maybe what you said hurt him in some way or form? Maybe that is why he came back at you with what he said? Skinny or over weight, it seems like you aren't happy with yourself either way. Not happy when guys hit on you when you used to be skinny and not happy with how society treats you when you are not skinny? I am not trying to be an a-hole but maybe you are looking at the wrong place for a relationship. m4a1mustang and Chuck33079 like this.

01-05-2014, 09:40 PM	#23 (permalink)
Chuck33079 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Houston Posts: 12,265 Drives: 2011 370ztt Rep Power: 29538	The only problem with his profile was your interpretation of it. You should have just moved on. Instead you decided to send a response that seems fairly snarky to the rest of the world. He was completely out of line in his response, but you never should have opened your mouth in the first place. Super Werty likes this. __________________ 2011 MB Touring-Sport-6sp-Nav/GTM TT/FI TT TDX/JTran/Kosmic/Eibach/Hotchkis/SPC/CSF/RPS/SoThatsWhereAllMyMoneyWent

01-05-2014, 09:48 PM	#25 (permalink)
Chuck33079 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Houston Posts: 12,265 Drives: 2011 370ztt Rep Power: 29538	What is wrong with society? It's as "helpful" a response as his profile was "angry". As in, not at all. In the future, if you don't like someone's profile, click the back button and go on about your day. __________________ 2011 MB Touring-Sport-6sp-Nav/GTM TT/FI TT TDX/JTran/Kosmic/Eibach/Hotchkis/SPC/CSF/RPS/SoThatsWhereAllMyMoneyWent

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Cell A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,449 Drives: A Garbage Truck Rep Power: 21	If I was a female, I would love the attention I get from guys if I was hot. Shiet, I love the attention from females as a male. Not sure why anyone would hate it, only boosts your morale and makes you feel wanted.

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LadyZ Base Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Earth Age: 37 Posts: 164 Drives: Car Rep Power: 11	I wasn't being condescending or nosey. I was just trying to be helpful. People are on that site to find someone. It's not like I said for him to quit sounding like such a total ****. Guess I should just not bother and let people burn. It's stuff like that and comments like that which make the nice people not want to bother. I love myself. Either way. Any way. That's it. I just think it's messed up to bring down someone just to make yourself feel better. I didn't at all take it personally. I know the dude was being a pissy little bitch. It happens. I just was annoyed how those very sentiments he expressed are what society says all the time about women. If they're not lined up in that perfect idea of how you think they should be, then they're not worth the dignity or respect. It's messed up.

01-05-2014, 09:46 PM	#24 (permalink)
LadyZ Base Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Earth Age: 37 Posts: 164 Drives: Car Rep Power: 11	Guess I just don't see how me being thoughtful and trying to help comes off as "snarky". It was a perfectly polite message.

01-06-2014, 05:18 AM	#27 (permalink)
LadyZ Base Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Earth Age: 37 Posts: 164 Drives: Car Rep Power: 11	I didn't think anything would come of it, and I didn't really want anything to come of it. I was literally just trying to be nice and bring to his attention something he may have not considered while writing it. I figured he'd take my suggestions into advisement and that would be it. That was my only purpose in sending the message as I thought I'd made clear through my word usage.

01-06-2014, 07:10 AM	#29 (permalink)
falconfixer Track Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: 10aC Posts: 978 Drives: Taco Rep Power: 76	Match.com should be renamed to DTF.com Almost everyone I work with that is on that site hooks up for one night stands.