Over 30 and still single, post here.

Cmike2780 · 01-15-2014, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by paperboy42190

I'm not 30 yet but I feel like I can relate. It is definitely annoying when friends check up on you and always ask "How's your love life?" "Do you have a gf?" etc etc I mean why is that always one of the main topics that come up? and sometimes they try to "help" out or give sympathetic advice.

24 Things Single People Are Tired Of Hearing

I do feel like having a relationship is overrated, not everyone needs one to be happy. Why do people in relationships get to "feel sorry" for people not in one?

That's true, but I don't think most people who are in relationships "feel sorry" for people not in one. I think most people in happy relationships are genuine about why YOU should feel the same way. It's definitely an annoying topic, trust me... and it doesn't end when you're in a relationship either. The questions just change...when are you getting engaged?....when are you getting married?...when are you buying a house?...when are you having a baby?...when are you having another baby....it just goes on and on and on and on.... If you don't want any of that, it's totally fine, but those type questions shouldn't bother you if you never want to be in a committed relationship. My guess (and I've felt the same in the past) is that it makes you feel like crap when they ask.... like you're not trying or failed some societal norm. Some just say stuff like that because they have nothing else to say. For the most part, it's just rude. I'd fire right back with similarly uncomfortable question.

Forever alone isn't exactly a best case scenario for most people though.

XiP · 01-15-2014, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Cmike2780

That's true, but I don't think most people who are in relationships "feel sorry" for people not in one. I think most people in happy relationships are genuine about why YOU should feel the same way. It's definitely an annoying topic, trust me... and it doesn't end when you're in a relationship either. The questions just change..."when are you getting married?...when are you buying a house?...when are you having a baby?...when are you having another baby....it just goes on and on. If you don't want any of that, it's totally fine, but those questions shouldn't bother you if you never want to be in a committed relationship. My guess (and I've felt the same in the past) is that it makes you feel like crap when they ask.... like you're not trying or failed some societal norm. For the most part, it's just rude. I'd fire right back with similarly uncomfortable question.

Forever alone isn't exactly a best case scenario for most people though.

This! My family, friends, and coworkers keep asking me why I'm single and it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong or supposed to be actively dating

paperboy42190 · 01-19-2014, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Cmike2780

My guess (and I've felt the same in the past) is that it makes you feel like crap when they ask.... like you're not trying or failed some societal norm. Some just say stuff like that because they have nothing else to say. For the most part, it's just rude. I'd fire right back with similarly uncomfortable question.

Good point. I had not thought of it that way before. I've had girlfriends before and even though I'm single now I don't feel like I'm unhappy without one. You're right it's just those societal norms that make people ask those questions.

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