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Chuck33079

I've had some good luck starting at a bar and going to a movie afterward. My favorite dates were the ones where we asked the box office which POS movie hadn't sold any tickets and we go make fun of it the whole time with no one to be bothered by the fact we're laughing like jackasses. You might want to sneak in a flask for that.

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saber

this thread is crowded today.

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Haboob

And that's a bad thing?

DIGItonium

Haha... well my mistake about this place tonight. I've only been there once. It's really a bar. It's Thirsty Thursday so this place gets pretty packed with no room to sit around. I'm bound to run into some friends, and possibly meeting with others. Keep you guys posted.

BTW, although she tells me she likes texting with me we really don't text all that much. Maybe once or twice especially once I figured her responses can take awhile or she doesn't respond. Last night at the table she actually checked the MMS I sent her. O_o

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XiP

Good luck!

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DIGItonium

Shook hands with a random dude speaking gibberish. A few minutes later several bouncers kicked him out. I'm on my 3rd beer. Getting sleepy. Earlier she said she was sleepy so no guarantee. My friends with left to another bar or went to hookah bar.

No surprise. I'm out of the house chilling at least Haha.

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Cmike2780

I feel for you bro. Hookah bar would have been perfect place to take her. Usually pretty quiet.

Did you get to talk to her at least? ...like an actual conversation?

Also, try not to text. I know it's the norm these days, but it's lazy and you make up all these crazy scenarios in your head when she doesn't text you back. Just call her (but not right after a date, lol). It's instant feedback.

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DIGItonium

She ended up staying home to sleep (works 7 days a week). So far it's just texts since her phone is messed up after getting the screen replaced. She has to get on speaker phone to chat. Coincidentally, I end up learning how to pace myself with texts.

To be honest, she's just like any typical girl I've met. The difference is hanging out versus having a date. I've hung out with several girls the past few months, and it was easy breezy without expectations. With this one, as part of my 2014 resolution, I decided to put in some effort.

Funny thought. We talked about the day we first met when my dad introduced us at her work place. She was making coffee for us. When she rang us up I gave her a $20, but she punched in $10. We both had a brain fart when she tried to recalculate the change. The more she asked, the more I forgot how to do simple math (a disgrace to engineers). We chuckled.

Anyhow, my nerves are finally getting calm after the 1st date. So from here on out I'll pace myself and keep a mental note of all your advices. Thanks again, and I'll keep you all posted.

Wish we can all get together and I'd buy you all pitchers of beer.

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Misnomer

DIGI, it sounds like you have the right attitude! Keep giving us updates...

Dude, what kind of crappy movies do you go to? Any decent movie is able to be discussed afterwards. I'm not saying you go see Frozen or Fast 6, but pick a movie with an actual plot and it shouldn't be hard to exchange opinions about it afterwards. They key here is that the movie is a conversation starter, not what you're relying on for the entire dinner/coffee date. If I'm on a first date with a guy and he can't come up with a single thing to say about the movie we just saw, there won't be a second date.

I meant reactions during the conversation about the movie, not someone's reactions during the actual movie-watching, but I see how my wording there sucked. (d'oh!)

BS. If you pick the restaurant and offer to let her pick the activity and the woman thinks that makes you weak/unorganized, she's not worth your time.

More BS. Your fiancée is 26: before you met her, did you ever date anyone older than you? Or even anyone over 30? (I'm not saying that every female over 30 is a woman, but nearly all females under 30 are still just girls.) Trust me, the mindsets of girls and women are VERY different.

Cmike2780

Do you honestly think two or more hours of complete silence in the dark is a good start to a first date? It doesn't matter what movie you go to, crappy or otherwise. It's a boring discussion after both having just seen it. It's a terrible conversation starter, even at dinner. I'm not saying the guy should or shouldn't have stuff to say about a movie he just saw, I'm saying watching a movie on the first date shouldn't be done, period! If you want to talk about movies on a date, that's totally fine. Talk about the ones you've seen in the past or one you want to see in the future. Not the one you both just saw an hour ago.

I'm not saying she shouldn't speak up, I'm saying the entire date should be somewhat planned. I'm all for spontaneity, but not having a plan lessens your odds of landing a second date. Which of these dates would you rather be on:

A) A date with a guy who picks you up at your place, reserved a nice restaurant for dinner, bought tickets to a play/musical/art exhibit/whatever followed by drinks or coffee. Ends it with a walk or quiet place where you both get to talk to one another.

B) A date with a guy who says...... " I dunno, where do you wanna go for dinner?" " I dunno, where do you wanna go after?" " I dunno, where do you wanna go now?"

Going to the movies, dinner and then having you decide where to go next isn't exactly a memorable romantic date for most women. I dunno, maybe I'm setting the standard too high, but I guess I'm a romantic at heart. If I really like someone, I'm gonna make an effort and that includes a good first impression.

Oh boy...Can't touch these without being mean.....Lets agree to disagree. I'm not making this about you, so please refrain from making this about me.

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0101

Personally, I don't want kids, and most mentally stable women do.
Therefore I only date.
I'm also not a fan of gambling half my money on a marriage contract.

DIGItonium

I chuckled. A guy who works next to me is in your shoes as well (at 38). He thinks marriage is overrated. He likes to date around as well, so he'll use dating apps and whatnot. It sounds like an adventure, so every now and then he'll have interesting stories about his encounters.

Others who have been through at least once divorce, already has kids, will say the same. They see no point in getting married again or having more kids.

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Misnomer

Ugh, I hate that. And I always feel bad saying so, because then I get a ton of defensive responses like "Small talk sucks! Don't hate me because I'm an introvert!", etc. But the ability to make decent conversation with a stranger is important to me.

And I thought Z drivers were supposed to be cool. Disappointment sucks, don't it?

Because it makes for a really long first date?

I mean, for example I love baseball and enjoy going to games, but I can't imagine doing that as a first date. That's a lot of time to be "locked in" with someone you don't know yet. (And what if it turns out you can't stand each other and then there are extra innings?!?)

"The Lonely Driver's Club"...LOL!

What's been hard for me is finding men who don't want kids but still like them. I've never wanted to be a parent, but I love kids -- babies, toddlers, whatever, just as long as they aren't mine. I adore my 12-year-old "nephew" (who has already asked if he can drive my Z when he turns 16!), and I can't imagine being serious about someone who wouldn't want to hang out with him. I generally don't click with people who don't like children or animals (I have a dog).

(Single dads would seem to be the answer right? Except that a lot of them don't want to date childless women, because they're convinced we'd never really understand that their kid comes first.)

0101

Yeah I agree. It does seem like a mental health test if someone doesn't like children and animals. I think they're cute, I love my niece and nephew and think my neighbors kids are funny, but I just don't want any. A dog or cat is cool. I think a lot of guys don't want kids, but get talked into it.

I'm in Arlington a lot for work, we shoud go out sometime

saber

Hey, I actually enjoyed watching frozen with my date...and she really liked it too lol.

Then again, I also fall into the classic thinking of 'no movies for first dates'. I think it's weird, if you're going out for the first time shouldn't you...you know, TALK a lot?

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