Need Some Help Starting Out

[AlmtyBob]

I'm a car audio n00b with a new Touring + Sport (no nav) and I'm looking for some recommendations. My preferences in order are:

1. Mostly stealth install: I'd really like a new HU that will blend in well with the dash as if it were just another option on the car from the factory. Most of the installs I've seen on this board come pretty close but sometimes the black HU bezels really stick out. I might be asking too much; I don't know. I'd like as little modification as possible everywhere else in the car. It may sound shallow, but I'll take visual aesthetics over audio quality.

2. Features: I'd like to retain the existing features such as steering wheel control, bluetooth, and voice activated dialing. I'm also mainly looking for mp3 playback for 8+ gigs of storage. iPod control would be ok but I hate to think of carrying an iPod around or leaving one in a hot car. I'd prefer something with a hard drive, SD slot for mp3s, or mp3 dvd-r. Sat Radio, DVD playback, and Navigation I'm not one way or another on. Also, I'd like to be able to add a backup cam or sensors in the future but it's not a big deal. I also LOVE highly configurable devices. From looking around it seems like the DNX-8120 is my best bet but I don't know what else is out there.

3. Price: I'd like to spend less than $3,000 parts + labor at a good shop. I really don't want to skimp on getting a professional installation but I don't have money to burn either.

3. Audio: I'm not an audiophile at all so I'd like something simple here. I was a bit disappointed with the Bose system though. It's a an upgrade from my old 350z track for sure, but even I can tell it's not a real good quality system. Most of my listening is hip-hop at a medium volume level. I like slightly over-pronounced bass I can feel, but don't want or need to be the douchebag at the stoplight rattling windows and loosening bowels. Since I'm probably not going to be watching DVDs I can get rid of the rear speakers, correct?

Thanks for reading. Sorry for the wall of text but I don't even know where to start when it comes to car audio.