4r3s's quitting smoking Journal

b1adesofcha0s

I think I know what place you're talking about, that restaurant was really good. I think it actually burned down like 2 years ago.

Keep up the good work 4r3s

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So how is this going? Hope you are holding strong! Can't say the same for myself. I've cheated a couple times, and I'm here to tell ya it's not worth it, I hate myself for it today. But im gonna continue to quit. I'm here in the trenches with ya man..

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4r3s

Well I'm day 11 and haven't cheated or slipped yet. Not thinking about smoking has gotten a lot easier and the thought of smoking a cigarette kind of makes me ill. My biggest problem lately has been finding new ways to deal with stress. I feel like a little pussy for it and I know there is nothing unique in this situation to me that no one else in this world hasn't already delt with but I can't help but feel alone. Just don't know what to do with myself since my ex left me. Its happened a few times now, whenever I get close to feeling good about myself and building my confidence back up I get some type of message from her. None of them say she wants me back but I can read between the lines and she doesn't know what the hell she wants. Its been difficult because I don't want to be alone anymore but I know I can't be with her again because I would only be setting myself up to be hurt again. But on the flip side I keep thinking of the good times we shared and I keep fooling myself into thinking shes going to come back and things can/will be the way they once were. I know I have a lot to offer someone special in my life and I know I deserve to be treated a whole lot better than this but I can't seem to help myself. I'm a freakin mess and I have no idea why I'm sharing this for the whole world to see.

shadoquad

4r3s,

It's ok, man. We've all been through this, and it's not easy for anyone, but have faith, man. You will make it through ok

You're right, though, you need to find something to pour your nervous energy into, and going through a breakup is going to fill you with anxiety. But you're definitely not a pussy. It takes strength to get just this far in your quest to stop smoking. And with strength, you'll move forward. You need to spend some time with friends, preferably those who don't smoke. Get out, have some laughs. Find a new hobby.

Plus, you'll find the right woman. Right now, you've got to focus on yourself. Being happy with yourself again is the first step to finding a healthy relationship.

Just my double penny

tjlazer

trying to quit while going through a breakup can be hard. Keep it up though you are doing really good. 11 days is awesome.

They say retail therapy is great for this kind of thing. Go buy some stuff for your Z! That will make you feel good and will keep you occupided. Also go find another gf. That will take your mind off of her.

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shadoquad

easiest way to get over an old gf is to get under a new one

TROOPER

Good luck, and congrats dude... You got will power after 12 years LOL

I've been doing it for 20 years, but the worst part is, I still enjoy it LOL.

I really gotta quit.

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4r3s

yeah that was a hard one for me, I def loved smoking when I quit. Part of my reason to quit was bc I loved it so much. Guess I should try that same philosophy with my ex.

tjlazer

"I love to smoke"

You have to keep it in perspective, why do you love it so much? It's a drug, that's why. It affects the dopamine receptors in your brain. When you really think about it, what is so great in sucking in some nasty smoke and smelling like an ash tray? From a non smoker's perspective: Nothing compelling at all and in fact it is the most disguisting thing in the world. But you know what? Non smokers will never understand until they try it and that is what I did a few years ago.

I did it for a year and I was blown away how addictive it was and I had a hard time quitting. Don't ever start and if you can, quit!

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As far as the GF goes... hit the gym HARD, you will be exhausted enough to sleep well and shut your mind off. Stick with it for 4 weeks and your body will show you results that will make you feel more confident and secure about yourself. Women love confidence, it helps them feel secure and more like women. Just my .02.

Regardless, you have quit smoking and that is a huge accomplishment on its own. Keep up the good work.

m4a1mustang

w00t keep up the good work man.

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4r3s

Well the ex is starting a crazy routine with fb messages and texts now. Guess shes realized what she threw away...but thats besides the point, point is im on day 12 of not smoking and I'm still sticking with it. I have to give some credit to my ex on this though, she is giving me a lot of **** to think about other than smoking...of course she is causing me to experience the most stress I've ever had to endure in my life so I'm kind torn on whether this is a good thing or a bad thing.

Kirkster

Just un-friend her on FB. Maybe she will get the point.

And keep up the good job on kicking the habit.

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4r3s

I did unfriend her on FB like a month ago, my biggest problem is I'm a nice guy and I still love her. I know she has other issues in her life other than our relationship and because I'm a nice guy I want to help her. Shes not a bad person by any means she has just made some poor decisions in life and honestly who hasn't? I know I've made several in my life time I know I will make several more as life goes on. Its what we learn from those experiences and how we choose to grow as an individual from those experiences that will define who you are. On one hand I know I'm setting myself up to be really hurt a second time around if we get back together but at the very least I will only have myself to be mad at because I have a good idea as to what I am getting myself into. On the other hand I know how awesome we were together and I've never been with someone that even remotely came close to making me feel as happy as I was when I was with her. I know theres plenty of fish in the sea but theres really only one that I'm interested in. I just hope that I am not chasing my Moby ****.

oh yeah, day 13 still not smoking going strong on that front

m4a1mustang

Don't give in to temptation. Keep up the good work.

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