Mt Tam I am's Driving Journal

Mt Tam I am · 09-16-2015, 11:12 AM

Jay is alive and better than well. My computer is on life support today and has been in a coma for months.

I want to tell everyone how appreciative I am of all of you. The prayers did their job and again I thank you for every one of them.

Jay did her radiation five days a week for six weeks. The worry was loss of eye sight in the left eye but this did not occur. She has terrible double vision which we work on every day. She often speaks to the wrong (illusion) head because of the double vision. This will get better.

We were walking every day up until a recent heat wave and laziness set in.

The doctors told us it would be a year until she could drive again. We live too far away from public transportation to be useful so she is trapped without the use of a car. So before this was told to us, I started driver re-education. We found a church parking lot initially, and while wearing an eye patch, proceeded to do a reasonable job of driving and parking. We continued this all throughout radiation driving now on the streets while I comfortably sat in the passenger seat instructing her to go deeper into a turn so as not to put a tire into the other lane. She glommed on to this wonderfully. Never does she cross the line nor put a tire over the right side line either. After radiation ended, doctors gave a new revised 8-12 months before she could drive again.

One week later Jay asked after a drive if she could drive all by herself. Music to my ears as I knew full well she saw all the pitfalls ahead, like the bikes up ahead , pedestrians etc. She drives slowly unlike her former self so this makes for a very precise driver today. Jay is no longer a prisoner of home. :happy dance:

The only down sides of her recovery are hair loss, the left eye being independent, afternoon fatigue, slight mood swings, and the worst perhaps, not being able to mentally juggle things. Every one of life's speed bumps seems like Mt Everest to her. Once she could handle so many things at once, now one at a time. Nor does she sleep through the night and therefore I do not either.

Currently she is mentally miserable because the house continues to need maintenance and having the plumber, a contractor, and public work on the street is upcoming. Little things to all of us are huge to her.

Life gets easier and better each day even if I can't notice it. When I look back a week or month it is clear.

Some day I'll have time to get my computer fixed. Some day.

onzedge · 09-16-2015, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Mt Tam I am

Jay is alive and better than well. My computer is on life support today and has been in a coma for months.

I want to tell everyone how appreciative I am of all of you. The prayers did their job and again I thank you for every one of them.

Jay did her radiation five days a week for six weeks. The worry was loss of eye sight in the left eye but this did not occur. She has terrible double vision which we work on every day. She often speaks to the wrong (illusion) head because of the double vision. This will get better.

We were walking every day up until a recent heat wave and laziness set in.

The doctors told us it would be a year until she could drive again. We live too far away from public transportation to be useful so she is trapped without the use of a car. So before this was told to us, I started driver re-education. We found a church parking lot initially, and while wearing an eye patch, proceeded to do a reasonable job of driving and parking. We continued this all throughout radiation driving now on the streets while I comfortably sat in the passenger seat instructing her to go deeper into a turn so as not to put a tire into the other lane. She glommed on to this wonderfully. Never does she cross the line nor put a tire over the right side line either. After radiation ended, doctors gave a new revised 8-12 months before she could drive again.

One week later Jay asked after a drive if she could drive all by herself. Music to my ears as I knew full well she saw all the pitfalls ahead, like the bikes up ahead , pedestrians etc. She drives slowly unlike her former self so this makes for a very precise driver today. Jay is no longer a prisoner of home. :happy dance:

The only down sides of her recovery are hair loss, the left eye being independent, afternoon fatigue, slight mood swings, and the worst perhaps, not being able to mentally juggle things. Every one of life's speed bumps seems like Mt Everest to her. Once she could handle so many things at once, now one at a time. Nor does she sleep through the night and therefore I do not either.

Currently she is mentally miserable because the house continues to need maintenance and having the plumber, a contractor, and public work on the street is upcoming. Little things to all of us are huge to her.

Life gets easier and better each day even if I can't notice it. When I look back a week or month it is clear.

Some day I'll have time to get my computer fixed. Some day.

This is great news.

JARblue · 09-16-2015, 02:11 PM

Good to hear from you, Carter. Cheers for a healthy recovery

Memphis370Z · 09-16-2015, 05:44 PM

Thanks for the update, Carter. So glad to know that Jay is doing better and that she is on the mend. Make sure you take care of yourself too.

Rusty · 09-17-2015, 12:02 PM

So glad to hear this.

Be patience. It will all come back. But it will take awhile. Before you know. It will seem like the distance past.

So now your computer is on the prayer list too.

blackcherry20 · 09-18-2015, 05:42 AM

Hi Tam!
Ty for the update...you,and Jay, appear to be taking care of business. It is good to see. God luv you both!

<3

Mt Tam I am · 09-23-2015, 10:33 AM

Thank you all for your tremendous support.

Jay seems happy the last few days too. It is wonderful to see her smile again.

onzedge · 09-23-2015, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Mt Tam I am

Thank you all for your tremendous support.

Jay seems happy the last few days too. It is wonderful to see her smile again.

Thanks for brightening my day with this news.

Memphis370Z · 12-09-2015, 10:20 PM

Hi, Carter.

Hope you and Jay are doing great. Everything still going well with Jay's progress? Just wanted to check on y'all.

onzedge · 12-10-2015, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Memphis370Z

Hi, Carter.

Hope you and Jay are doing great. Everything still going well with Jay's progress? Just wanted to check on y'all.

Mt Tam I am · 04-21-2016, 03:15 PM

This long overdue update I will attempt today.

Jay and I are doing very well. I would like to say she is 100% but this is not the case. Last month she had an operation to stop her double vision. It was mostly succesful but not perfect. She can hold her head a certain way and see only one head or one person. This is great. If you look at her you can tell something is wrong with at least one eye. It has that lazy eye look. She can see so looks are not everything, but this poor girl wants to look as good as possible. Who wouldn't.

With some good friends who offered help, we got her to all her appointments and anything else. I have been working throughout all of this with few days off. My mother and sister have needed financial help too so I have been busy working for all of us.

The thought of driving at the track was missed initially but I soon realized I am not allowed to get hurt or sick. Just driving my car into a ditch would have caused another avalanche of my time being used up. Getting laid up was unthinkable so no track days. I had almost lost interest in cars. I do say almost. Regular maintenance was often ignored.

Last week on the way to work, my car hit a rev limiter at 3500 rpm's. I noticed the oil temp was still at 140 or less so I figured oil. I drove in third and fourth gear to avoid 3500 rpm's. I let the car sit for an hour or more then checked the stick. Nothing. Three weeks earlier it was low and I ordered a case of oil. It took three quarts to come up to the top. The dip stick is not linear. I added the second quart and it was still at the bottom of the stick. It was the last one that brought it to the top. My poor car. It seems undamaged but clearly I have been absent from normal life.

When I went to the track I always was on top of things. May 8th is going to be my first track day in 18 months or more. I only decided to go today. Jay wants to go so life may be reverting to normal.

Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. I can not tell you how much comfort I received. You are wonderful people.

Rusty · 04-21-2016, 04:16 PM

This is good to hear.

She's trying and hasn't given up.

That's good. She has gone through a lot. Remind her of that, and use it as a positive note. Something to build on. Time now to enjoy life.

When my first wife was dying of cancer, and I was taking care of her. I didn't take care of myself.

I was more worried about her then me. I paid the price on a few things. Missed my dental appointments, doctor appointments, etc. After she past away. I started to go back to catch up on things. Going back to the dentist. I ended up with 4 bridges in my mouth. Plus hernia surgery.

Both of you are still in my prays.

JARblue · 04-21-2016, 04:56 PM

Great to hear progress, Carter. Cheers to both you and Jay

And don't worry about the Z. It is much easier to fix than the human body. Enjoy the track!

Hotrodz · 04-21-2016, 04:57 PM

^^^ What Rusty said in spades! The best to you and your wife still. Recovering from tragedy should teach us to live and love hard. That doesn't happen by living in a bubble and it seems like Jay understand that too. Be well and I lool forward to reading about your adventures.

Sent from my SM-N910P using Tapatalk

Memphis370Z · 04-21-2016, 05:05 PM

So very, very glad to hear that Jay is doing better. Glad to know that the interest in driving your Z again has been sparked too.

09-16-2015, 11:12 AM	#571 (permalink)
Mt Tam I am A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: California Posts: 10,709 Drives: 370Z T/S/N 6MT & XKE Rep Power: 3842	Jay is alive and better than well. My computer is on life support today and has been in a coma for months. I want to tell everyone how appreciative I am of all of you. The prayers did their job and again I thank you for every one of them. Jay did her radiation five days a week for six weeks. The worry was loss of eye sight in the left eye but this did not occur. She has terrible double vision which we work on every day. She often speaks to the wrong (illusion) head because of the double vision. This will get better. We were walking every day up until a recent heat wave and laziness set in. The doctors told us it would be a year until she could drive again. We live too far away from public transportation to be useful so she is trapped without the use of a car. So before this was told to us, I started driver re-education. We found a church parking lot initially, and while wearing an eye patch, proceeded to do a reasonable job of driving and parking. We continued this all throughout radiation driving now on the streets while I comfortably sat in the passenger seat instructing her to go deeper into a turn so as not to put a tire into the other lane. She glommed on to this wonderfully. Never does she cross the line nor put a tire over the right side line either. After radiation ended, doctors gave a new revised 8-12 months before she could drive again. One week later Jay asked after a drive if she could drive all by herself. Music to my ears as I knew full well she saw all the pitfalls ahead, like the bikes up ahead , pedestrians etc. She drives slowly unlike her former self so this makes for a very precise driver today. Jay is no longer a prisoner of home. :happy dance: The only down sides of her recovery are hair loss, the left eye being independent, afternoon fatigue, slight mood swings, and the worst perhaps, not being able to mentally juggle things. Every one of life's speed bumps seems like Mt Everest to her. Once she could handle so many things at once, now one at a time. Nor does she sleep through the night and therefore I do not either. Currently she is mentally miserable because the house continues to need maintenance and having the plumber, a contractor, and public work on the street is upcoming. Little things to all of us are huge to her. Life gets easier and better each day even if I can't notice it. When I look back a week or month it is clear. Some day I'll have time to get my computer fixed. Some day. onzedge, JARblue, Rusty and 2 others like this. __________________ "Does the carpet match the drapes? NO!!! I don't date bald women." Nissan Motorsports 34R Oil Cooler. Stillen CBE. Hotchkis Sport Sway Bars. KW Variant 3 Coilover System. Stillen Gen3 CAI. Michelin Pilot Super Sport. Stillen Brake Ducts. Carbotech™ XP10/XP8 Pads. Z1 Front Rotors. Z1 Stainless Brake Lines. Two degrees of camber

09-16-2015, 02:11 PM	#573 (permalink)
JARblue A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Austin, TX Age: 43 Posts: 36,449 Drives: 11 Z34, 98 E36 M3 Rep Power: 2684440	Good to hear from you, Carter. Cheers for a healthy recovery onzedge and Memphis370Z like this. __________________ 2011 370Z 6MT Sport Gun Metallic \| ARC \| CJM \| Ecutek \| FI \| Fujimura \| R2C \| SPL \| Stillen \| TWM \| Z1 \| ZSpeed \|

09-16-2015, 05:44 PM	#574 (permalink)
Memphis370Z A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Memphis Area Posts: 3,117 Drives: '09 MB Rep Power: 124433	Thanks for the update, Carter. So glad to know that Jay is doing better and that she is on the mend. Make sure you take care of yourself too. onzedge likes this.

09-17-2015, 12:02 PM	#575 (permalink)
Rusty Ronin Samurai - Assassin Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Fayettenam,Pennsyltucky Age: 68 Posts: 34,866 Drives: 2011 Nismo GM 6M Rep Power: 2684436	So glad to hear this. Be patience. It will all come back. But it will take awhile. Before you know. It will seem like the distance past. So now your computer is on the prayer list too. onzedge and Hotrodz like this. __________________ 浪人 - 殺し屋 "The Difficult Anytime, The Impossible By Appointment Only" http://www.the370z.com/members-370z-...o-journal.html

09-18-2015, 05:42 AM	#576 (permalink)
blackcherry20 A True Z Fanatic Join Date: May 2012 Location: Southern Ohio Posts: 22,749 Drives: ‘17 badazz Z51 Rep Power: 240458	Hi Tam! Ty for the update...you,and Jay, appear to be taking care of business. It is good to see. God luv you both! <3 onzedge likes this. __________________ Grand Sport Corvette Arctic White

09-23-2015, 10:33 AM	#577 (permalink)
Mt Tam I am A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: California Posts: 10,709 Drives: 370Z T/S/N 6MT & XKE Rep Power: 3842	Thank you all for your tremendous support. Jay seems happy the last few days too. It is wonderful to see her smile again. JARblue and Memphis370Z like this. __________________ "Does the carpet match the drapes? NO!!! I don't date bald women." Nissan Motorsports 34R Oil Cooler. Stillen CBE. Hotchkis Sport Sway Bars. KW Variant 3 Coilover System. Stillen Gen3 CAI. Michelin Pilot Super Sport. Stillen Brake Ducts. Carbotech™ XP10/XP8 Pads. Z1 Front Rotors. Z1 Stainless Brake Lines. Two degrees of camber

12-09-2015, 10:20 PM	#579 (permalink)
Memphis370Z A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Memphis Area Posts: 3,117 Drives: '09 MB Rep Power: 124433	Hi, Carter. Hope you and Jay are doing great. Everything still going well with Jay's progress? Just wanted to check on y'all. Mt Tam I am, JARblue and Hotrodz like this.

04-21-2016, 03:15 PM	#581 (permalink)
Mt Tam I am A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: California Posts: 10,709 Drives: 370Z T/S/N 6MT & XKE Rep Power: 3842	This long overdue update I will attempt today. Jay and I are doing very well. I would like to say she is 100% but this is not the case. Last month she had an operation to stop her double vision. It was mostly succesful but not perfect. She can hold her head a certain way and see only one head or one person. This is great. If you look at her you can tell something is wrong with at least one eye. It has that lazy eye look. She can see so looks are not everything, but this poor girl wants to look as good as possible. Who wouldn't. With some good friends who offered help, we got her to all her appointments and anything else. I have been working throughout all of this with few days off. My mother and sister have needed financial help too so I have been busy working for all of us. The thought of driving at the track was missed initially but I soon realized I am not allowed to get hurt or sick. Just driving my car into a ditch would have caused another avalanche of my time being used up. Getting laid up was unthinkable so no track days. I had almost lost interest in cars. I do say almost. Regular maintenance was often ignored. Last week on the way to work, my car hit a rev limiter at 3500 rpm's. I noticed the oil temp was still at 140 or less so I figured oil. I drove in third and fourth gear to avoid 3500 rpm's. I let the car sit for an hour or more then checked the stick. Nothing. Three weeks earlier it was low and I ordered a case of oil. It took three quarts to come up to the top. The dip stick is not linear. I added the second quart and it was still at the bottom of the stick. It was the last one that brought it to the top. My poor car. It seems undamaged but clearly I have been absent from normal life. When I went to the track I always was on top of things. May 8th is going to be my first track day in 18 months or more. I only decided to go today. Jay wants to go so life may be reverting to normal. Thank you all for your prayers and good wishes. I can not tell you how much comfort I received. You are wonderful people. onzedge, JARblue, Rusty and 2 others like this. __________________ "Does the carpet match the drapes? NO!!! I don't date bald women." Nissan Motorsports 34R Oil Cooler. Stillen CBE. Hotchkis Sport Sway Bars. KW Variant 3 Coilover System. Stillen Gen3 CAI. Michelin Pilot Super Sport. Stillen Brake Ducts. Carbotech™ XP10/XP8 Pads. Z1 Front Rotors. Z1 Stainless Brake Lines. Two degrees of camber

04-21-2016, 04:16 PM	#582 (permalink)
Rusty Ronin Samurai - Assassin Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Fayettenam,Pennsyltucky Age: 68 Posts: 34,866 Drives: 2011 Nismo GM 6M Rep Power: 2684436	This is good to hear. She's trying and hasn't given up. That's good. She has gone through a lot. Remind her of that, and use it as a positive note. Something to build on. Time now to enjoy life. When my first wife was dying of cancer, and I was taking care of her. I didn't take care of myself. I was more worried about her then me. I paid the price on a few things. Missed my dental appointments, doctor appointments, etc. After she past away. I started to go back to catch up on things. Going back to the dentist. I ended up with 4 bridges in my mouth. Plus hernia surgery. Both of you are still in my prays. Mt Tam I am, JARblue, Hotrodz and 1 others like this. __________________ 浪人 - 殺し屋 "The Difficult Anytime, The Impossible By Appointment Only" http://www.the370z.com/members-370z-...o-journal.html

04-21-2016, 04:56 PM	#583 (permalink)
JARblue A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Austin, TX Age: 43 Posts: 36,449 Drives: 11 Z34, 98 E36 M3 Rep Power: 2684440	Great to hear progress, Carter. Cheers to both you and Jay And don't worry about the Z. It is much easier to fix than the human body. Enjoy the track! Mt Tam I am, Rusty and Memphis370Z like this. __________________ 2011 370Z 6MT Sport Gun Metallic \| ARC \| CJM \| Ecutek \| FI \| Fujimura \| R2C \| SPL \| Stillen \| TWM \| Z1 \| ZSpeed \|

04-21-2016, 04:57 PM	#584 (permalink)
Hotrodz Premium Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: NW, AZ Posts: 9,330 Drives: 10 Nissan 370z Nismo Rep Power: 2684384	^^^ What Rusty said in spades! The best to you and your wife still. Recovering from tragedy should teach us to live and love hard. That doesn't happen by living in a bubble and it seems like Jay understand that too. Be well and I lool forward to reading about your adventures. Sent from my SM-N910P using Tapatalk Mt Tam I am, JARblue, Rusty and 1 others like this. __________________ *Fast Intentions TT Installed and Tuned by Seb at SpecialtyZ 610whp 560tq:\|Fast Intentions 3" TT-TDX*\|SpecialtyZ/Fast Intentions 72 Row Oil Cooler\|SZ 6 Puck Clutch & Flywheel\|3GsCustoms\|Z1\|Wavetrac\|Hotchkis\|Whiteline \|Blitz\|Fortune Auto 500\|Fujimura\|SPL\|H&R\|TK\|TWM\|RPM Rollbar\|Sparco\|Next Level Performance\|TrackSpec\|AeroFlow Dynamics\|Pioneer\|

04-21-2016, 05:05 PM	#585 (permalink)
Memphis370Z A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Memphis Area Posts: 3,117 Drives: '09 MB Rep Power: 124433	So very, very glad to hear that Jay is doing better. Glad to know that the interest in driving your Z again has been sparked too. Mt Tam I am, JARblue and Rusty like this.

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