The New "What did you do with your Z today" (with off topic replies) XI

Originally Posted by madwi

Hell yeah accept! If they are serious about paying for a room to spend time with you, go for it, its not taking advantage of anyone in MY book. you can ALWAYS do something nice for them when the time is right. Offer a dinner for steaks or something at your place while they are in town maybe? To be honest they are already giving you an out in saying its a Birthday present. *I* would think they really want to spend some time with you and care about you.

Originally Posted by JARblue

My answer would be based on a couple of things. First and foremost, what is your relationship with them. I have several close friends that I would accept an offer like that from in a heartbeat, but I certainly wouldn't feel comfortable accepting that offer from just anyone. Some "friends" I wouldn't accept because I'm pretty sure they would try to hang it over me even though it was their offer.

Also, the friends I would accept from can afford the cost with no hassles. If it were a close friend and I knew they were not in the best financial situation (in which case, why the hell are they offering), I would not accept simply for that.

Originally Posted by Haboob

They're pretty much my best friends - we all hang out almost every night of the week anymore and they'd never be ones to hang it over my head, I don't think.

I would think it wouldn't be a big deal (money-wise) for them with the way he spends on his GTR, but I don't like to ever think that way about anyone - I will always feel like I'm indebted to them, even if it's a gift. I guess that's just how I am.

Originally Posted by Haboob

They're pretty much my best friends - we all hang out almost every night of the week anymore and they'd never be ones to hang it over my head, I don't think.

I would think it wouldn't be a big deal (money-wise) for them with the way he spends on his GTR, but I don't like to ever think that way about anyone - I will always feel like I'm indebted to them, even if it's a gift. I guess that's just how I am.

Originally Posted by madwi

(**** typing y'all haha)

Originally Posted by JARblue

Y'all northerners can go suck it

Originally Posted by Haboob

They're pretty much my best friends - we all hang out almost every night of the week anymore and they'd never be ones to hang it over my head, I don't think.

I would think it wouldn't be a big deal (money-wise) for them with the way he spends on his GTR, but I don't like to ever think that way about anyone - I will always feel like I'm indebted to them, even if it's a gift. I guess that's just how I am.

Originally Posted by JARblue

I have a good friend that makes bank and has almost no expenses because he travels for work all the time. Years ago, I was a lot more uncomfortable about letting him spend money on us. Now I just ask for his credit card to pay the tab

Basically, I know that he enjoys doing what he's doing. I know that I would be doing the same thing in his position. I enjoy spending money on my friends and family

Originally Posted by Haboob

I wish I could afford to spend more money on friends.

I try to, but I'm also a horrible gift giver.

Originally Posted by Haboob

I wish I could afford to spend more money on friends.

I try to, but I'm also a horrible gift giver.

Originally Posted by madwi

Hey man, its not always what you can give back in $. Friendship, willingness to offer support through verbal or other channels can make a big impact. Money is NOT always the best heart felt response. When you care about people, its in your actions that count. $ is not the best indicator of your caring!

Originally Posted by Haboob

You're correct.

I guess I am just looking at things materialistically when I shouldn't be, thanks.

Originally Posted by Haboob

You're correct.

I guess I am just looking at things materialistically when I shouldn't be, thanks.

Originally Posted by onzedge

They are a menace.