Go watch Swingers. You're like this big bear man, and you have these big claws and the bunny's just sitting there, and you have these big claws but you don't know what to do with them. you gotta kill the bunny!

hey now, i'm one of the most active in these threads :rofl2:

i...kinda f*cked up a little last week, so we'll see how things go.

What did you do this time? :confused:

Yeah I agree. It does seem like a mental health test if someone doesn't like children and animals. I think they're cute, I love my niece and nephew and think my neighbors kids are funny, but I just don't want any. A dog or cat is cool. I think a lot of guys don't want kids, but get talked into it.

I'm in Arlington a lot for work, we shoud go out sometime ;)

Kids can be cool.

Not sure if I want any yet, and I'm super nervous about being around other peoples kids unless I know the person well, and even then I'm a bit stand-offish.

Animals? I don't want any. I don't mind dogs, cats are boring, but I don't hate them. I'm not a huge fanatic of either, so some things in the news don't really bother me like it does others and it forces me to keep my mouth shut for fear of offending people (but, it bugs the **** out of me when they go on their fanatical rants, so I guess I shouldn't really be biting my tongue if they're not going to).

I won't ever own a pet though, because they all shed and I refuse to deal with pet hair on my clothes and causing allergies, etc.

Just try to keep nitpicking, prejudice, self negativity, etc., to an absolute minimum or zippo. It will be difficult, but you want to build a positive conversation environment so people you're around will feel comfortable talking to you. Just have some fun and show your funny side if you can. So maybe you don't drink... just make it funny. I get that all the time on days I chose not to drink, so I tell them I want to maintain my figure.

Not everything in life is a positive one, but I try to make it funny or poke fun at it instead of moping about it (or go out for drinks). So when people ask, I just talk about it a little bit without looking depressed and emo. I don't care. This might sound bad, but maybe I'll get the chance one day. It beats getting back with an ex. :D

What the eff. Plan is to go visit this weekend, and she told some guy (that I know) is going to be there as well. He was her wedding date a few months ago, but no one knew if anything was going on. 5th wheel warning. :owned:

:|

I got tired of stuff like that so now I go into all my interactions with females as friends, no expectations = no letdown
I think it makes it a lot less tense because I talk about whatever I want like would with a guy friend

True. As bad as getting FZ'd sounds when meeting someone new, maybe some people (like me) have to start out that way at the beginning. This is definitely how nice guys finish last. I read about it, and basically I just have to play it cool.

That's what I've been doing recently, which is pace myself and not come off too pushy or desperate. That means taking my time to get to know the person. The difficult part is that she's obviously talking to others, so some guys can seal the deal quicker.

I've been first may times and leave it for others to get sloppy 2nds :icon14:, so I could care less as long as she doesn't have VD or some other crazy sh*t or baggage when my turn comes around haha.

I'm not 30 yet but I feel like I can relate. It is definitely annoying when friends check up on you and always ask "How's your love life?" "Do you have a gf?" etc etc I mean why is that always one of the main topics that come up? and sometimes they try to "help" out or give sympathetic advice.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/ashleyperez/...red-of-hearing

I do feel like having a relationship is overrated, not everyone needs one to be happy. Why do people in relationships get to "feel sorry" for people not in one?

That's true, but I don't think most people who are in relationships "feel sorry" for people not in one. I think most people in happy relationships are genuine about why YOU should feel the same way. It's definitely an annoying topic, trust me... and it doesn't end when you're in a relationship either. The questions just change...when are you getting engaged?....when are you getting married?...when are you buying a house?...when are you having a baby?...when are you having another baby....it just goes on and on and on and on.... If you don't want any of that, it's totally fine, but those type questions shouldn't bother you if you never want to be in a committed relationship. My guess (and I've felt the same in the past) is that it makes you feel like crap when they ask.... like you're not trying or failed some societal norm. Some just say stuff like that because they have nothing else to say. For the most part, it's just rude. I'd fire right back with similarly uncomfortable question.

Forever alone isn't exactly a best case scenario for most people though.

This! My family, friends, and coworkers keep asking me why I'm single and it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong or supposed to be actively dating

DIGI, being FZ'd isn't too bad sometimes. I could be a typical Marine (rude, crude and socially unacceptable) without feeling like I had to impress her. She would ask what I did the night before, I'd tell her about any dates and how they went. It was actually funny to watch her reactions, she'd get mad when I said I had a good time or a little smug when I said the date didn't go so well. We taught karate together, so we had a ton of time to talk after the dojo closed. I got the impression she wanted to take the next step, but I was like 'no, you FZ'd me, so that's where you are staying'... that's where she still is, a friend that wishes she would have made the right choice. I'm enjoying my life, she had the chance and let it slide. :happydance:

[OFFTOPIC]Dude! Short road trip to KC this Saturday. I'll be attending KC Restaurant Week, and the girl I'm meeting up over there suggests Kill Devil Club.[/OFFTOPIC]

Have to admit, whenever I see the title of this thread come up, I think back to a video George Sodini did:

George Sodini Home Video - Pittsburgh Gym Shooter - YouTube

It was pretty creepy finding the original up on YouTube shortly after the shooting. This isn't it, but does contain the full original inside it. From other news outlets, I guess the guy hadn't had sex in 19 years and was a little fixated on that. In the end, he was a very unhappy, angry person.

Whoa!...that's a bit of a leap... :wtf2:

I don't think it's really fair to compare anyone here asking for advice to someone with mental issues.

Interesting thread. I'm not single but I'm turning 30 very soon so here are my :twocents:

Seems like some of you have relatively high standards. Keep in mind that intelligent and pretty single women with a nice personality and a good career are pretty hard to find. Unless you have the same qualities yourself, but then why would you still be single? But I digress...

It's not hard to pick up women, they are literally everywhere. If there are none that interests you within your work or social circle then you gotta look else where. You just gotta man up and go for it.

You see a cute girl studying/drinking coffee alone, i.e. without her SO, at Starbucks? Go talk to her. Worst comes to worst she will say no. Doesn't matter where the place is, a mall, a restaurant, a park, as long as you allow yourself to make the first move.

Clubs and bars are actually great places to find decent women; not all of them are sluts or "drunk whores", you just have to learn how to differentiate. A lot of them just want to have a fun night with their girl friends. Just go with a couple of buddies to help each other out when talking to them. They are usually in small groups so if you go solo they will most likely reject you.

It's just the chemistry. I've met some cute single girls that I have no chemistry with. Then there are mediocre looking ones, but no one with real chemistry. A few I had some chemistry, but those girls are taken or married. Others has shown some attraction, but it's just not there with me. I get these vibes when I look into their eyes.

The one I met recently is pretty, but I didn't notice that when I first met her. My friends think she's quite hot, though. Interaction in person was great, outgoing, talkative, and I just get this really nice vibe with her. I was so pumped my workout and volleyball practice was better, and I was able to quickly implement new project ideas at work. It has been a long time since I've had such good vibes. Once she gave me the rejection speech I took it upon myself to hit the bars to have a few drinks and watch the KU and Iowa St. game, and had a couple more with some friends before calling it a night. Yesterday's volleyball practice tanked. I failed every other serve, and I barely had any opportunities to spike. :(

Maybe the chemistry was lost because when she found out I'm rooting for WSU Shox. She posted pics of her and her new beau wearing KU swag. :p

What kind of rejection speech did she give you?

http://www.the370z.com/2649543-post264.html
http://www.the370z.com/2649590-post266.html

Keywords "for now." I kept it cool and thanked her for her time. That was it.

Good point. I had not thought of it that way before. I've had girlfriends before and even though I'm single now I don't feel like I'm unhappy without one. You're right it's just those societal norms that make people ask those questions. :tup:

Because it's not the "social norm." I'll chime in with a little bit of my personal past (unwarranted but going to anyways) I dated a girl for over 10 years off and on and over 8 years steady. We met in elementary school and started dating in middle school. We went all the way through our sophomore year of college (we also went to the same college). We started bickering a lot and drifting apart around that time and she was wanting to quit school and have a baby extremely hardcore for some reason, and I just wasn't going to do that. Long story short, we broke up and she quit school and year and half later she was prego. Broke my heart, and ever since then I just can't find that connection that we had. I don't know if its the connection I miss or the comfortability I miss. IDK. ANYWAYS, I've met women in my age range (I'm 25) and they're either sketchy as hell or severely immature. Am I happy being single? Yes. Do I miss that odd/beautiful/nagging connection? Yes. It's just a really weird time for guys in our age to find someone thats compatible and not absolutely bat **** crazy. Hope this helps you, I feel better just telling someone else something that I've been keeping to myself for quite a while.. Even if it is to people I don't know.

Alpha, I can't begin to tell you how accurate of a portrayal that was of my own life in the present. It's like many of them possess the same M.O. and have baggage they seem to lug around that they're unwilling to part from.

hey alpha, mspint (pintsize725) has a premium membership only thread where you can post all the hate you have about something or someone to release. :tup: not good keeping it all inside.

so what do you do when you meet another girl that you have chemistry with when you already have a gf? Its not that I don't have chemistry with the gf, but 5 years is along time together....and its the only real relationship I've had. Idk if I'm freaking out because she's the one, or because I feel trapt and I have another girl on the line. Both girls we can talk about anything and not feel akward....also girl #2 is about 30 lbs lighter so for the car it would help, but she has no real "Assets"...doesnt matter to much on that part. I'm just stuck I'm pretty sure im just being a coward and not wanting to get married like girl #1 is pushing for.

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I laughed at the lighter on the car :icon17: allow me to chime in:
I have a friend that was in a simillar situation,she was with the first real relationsihp for 4+ years until he finally proposed and she said yes. It was then that she realized how much she was missing. she had dude friends but wouldnt do much since she was heading for marriage. for those 5 years all she knew was one guy. she would tell me, he was the one but her mind was not where it needed to be, she felt if she married she'd wonder "what if". long story short, she did not get married and she went on a streak doing whatever (or anyone) she wanted lol after she got that out of her system she found the right guy and is now happily married (i think)

Water under the bridge. No hate involved. I have a college degree now with a great job and she works at a grocery store or something now. I think the difference in our decisions have spoken for themselves. I have the majority of what I want in my life at this moment, and hopefully she has what she wants.

ya....i feel like i kinda need to do that.....but what if i never stop XD

Then the relationship was never right for you to begin with.

+1

but I'm 23 though. I definitely agree on the immature part. I see a lot of girls who are immature and it's just a turn off for me.

Pretty sad. I bumped into at least 4 girls in the past couple of weeks who told me their recent dbag ex bf stories, and 2 of them have a kid.

#1 The youngest one. Guy wasn't so nice to her and he tried too hard to get lucky with her in the car. After a few days of hanging out he busted out those 3 words. She dropped him. (No kid)
#2 Some random girl I met who is close to my age and told me about the past couple of abusive relationships. She's battered. She almost had a kid.
#3 A friend of mine who went through a lot last year. Got preggo, but the guy she was with pretty much continued cheating on her. He makes no effort for the baby and makes lots of empty promises. She also found out he had another kid with someone else. SMH.
#4 A old friend who went through a similar ordeal. Difference here is that he owns up to it and at least spends time with his child.

I asked them one question, and their jaws dropped. I said "So are these the guys who are super charming when you first meet them, and completely change when they get what they wanted?" All said "Yes!"

Imagine that.. but they continue to fall for the same bulls***.

Not judging or anything. Don't kid yourself, of course you're going to be attracted to other women. Every guy does, even when they're in a happy relationship. The difference between a douche and a man is self control.

It's okay to feel hesitant towards marriage, but after 5 years, you should know already. At the very least, you should have thought about the possibility. It's a waste of your time and hers if that's what she wants. If you're still numbering your girls and feel trapped, you're not ready for marriage. It's not looking good if you're still talking to other girls. You'd be starting a marriage with lies and that always ends in a mess. If you want to be with someone else, be with someone else. Your girlfriend deserves a guy she can trust. Would you feel okay if she was talking to some other dude with larger junk for example? Just say'n.

I guess my point is, whatever you do, don't cheat. You'll end up without a gf or end up with the girl that will always think you'll cheat on her...or you end up alone.

My buddy messaged me about this the other day. He got engaged to his gf of 7 years in Nov, and they're about to tie the knot this summer. He told me about the hot girls at the gym, and how tempting it is. I told him it's "God" testing him. His fiancee is great, and it's not worth risking all of that for one night with a "hot" girl.

Anyhow, KC trip was fun. I'm starting to learn to really stay cool and make friends with whoever. It's unfortunate what some of these girls went through. They're so fun to talk to, outgoing, and easy on the eyes... but has baggage. (Ha!)

Interesting thread....http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y29...psd50dfaa6.gif

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had a date planned for saturday night
and i just found out i have to work on saturday night. now i have to tell her that on a friday evening, sounds legit... -_-

this is how i feel about work right now
http://www.quickmeme.com/img/a5/a55f...f71c18eaa4.jpg

:(

That stinks man. Just ask if you can reschedule. I'm sure she'll understand; things happen.


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