Anyone who dated a nurse with a busy schedule?
 

I've seen my friends date nurses, and one is getting engaged to one. I don't see them complain about their S/O. I do understand people in this field work long hours and look like zombies half the time.

Anyhow I met this girl who I've met on a few occasions, and she's recently single. We click pretty well, but I never thought much about it. Last week we hung out a couple of times, and we seem to have lots to talk about. Overall, I enjoy her company.

Now I've only barely started to really get to know her for the past week, so I'm not going to rush into a relationship. What I've noticed is that she has told me about her busy schedule and that she's always on call. It mostly sounds legitimate. Then there's a couple of times over the weekend she would bail on the last minute. One night she ended up going to the movies with her coworker and friend after church. The next was that she needed to comfort a coworker who got in an argument with her husband. Today I cooked dinner, but after class she had a meeting followed by covering for someone's rotation till midnight.

Getting to know her and finding time to see her is really testing my patience. In the past I would lose it and blow up on someone, but I try my best to not take it seriously and not care. So far so good with my temper the past several days!!! Overall she seems pretty cool, but at this point I sitll don't mind looking around for other opportunities. She says she can come over tomorrow for dinner. I've decided if she bails on this one, I'm going to quietly (non-verbally) cease contact and move on.

Just seeing what you guys think...

probably one of the busiest people i know. Ask me how i know lol.

if you feel she is dodging on purpose then just move on.

If she's not at least contacting you as soon as she can afterwards to try to schedule something, then she doesn't really feel it.

Your first instinct (gut feeling) is usually never wrong. I think you're doing the right thing.

Oddly enough, she actually calls me, and she sounds like she has lots of energy and spunk when she chats with me. Other times she can't be reached, but she does text me eventually. It's possible she is quite busy (albeit, too busy).

Last month, I bumped into her. She asked me what I was doing that night, and I told her I had a party to attend. I asked her what she was doing, and she frowned and said "nothing." I was completely oblivious! So I saw her again one day, struck a convo, found out she's single, got her number...

At this point, I don't mind her breaking the monotony of my day. After my last relationship, it's hard for to fall head over heels over anyone. Plus, I prefer to stay single until the inevitable happens. Quite a bit of people envy my single-ness. :)

We'll see about tomorrow... I'm pretty much whatever and going with the flow. At this point in life I'm happy to avoid throwing a fit or waste my brain energy going emo over this stuff. It's just something to talk about haha.

I say go for the slam... If she goes along, she digs you, if not, toss her aside. :stirthepot:

:inoutroflpuke: :bowrofl:

:tiphat: Just trying to stay [ahem] innocent... er gentleman... hence the patience. ;)

Tell me you haven't at least thought about what she looks like under those Scrubs... Not once?? :icon08:


Cause you know, they don't have to be fully clothed under them... :stirthepot:

Dude, last week I barely got done working out at my gym and she invited me to work out with her at the gym she goes to. That's another trait I like... despite having a busy life, she makes time to work out. Showed me her flat tummy and tan. Then I noticed the rounder things in life.

I don't have the flattest tummy, but I work out and play lots of vball. Would love to date a vball girl though...

So cop a feel, take a peek, let her know you are physically attracted to her...

If she is being legit with you and not messing with others, working all the time is going to make her libido be backed up, and any venting you allow will be jumped on... I call that a win/win.

Tomorrow night I shall see...

http://i.imgur.com/FHrstm.jpg

I expect a full debrief, with pictures. :tup:

I used to date a nurse. She was a total horndog! Plus she had that little white hat with the red cross on it.

I used to have her keep it on after work....

my advice? Do not be a gentleman too long. She wants to be admired and worshiped a bit, and the Docs play cold with her all day. She is tired of not being noticed.

Interesting. Aside from a crazy schedule, she tells me about this crazy expensive hobby (e.g., shoes and purses). She told me about this purse she saved up for... man that's the price of a supercharger! She can relate to my expensive hobby then lol.

Will take note...

Sub'd because I'm too lazy to read this now, but I am interested

I knew it was only a matter of time before you stumbled in here... You have to post in every single thread... :inoutroflpuke: :p

Goddamn right I do

Back on topic, (without reading the thread) pics? And bang her

Brother anyone in the emergency services line of work will always be busy all the time, Im a Sheriff's Deputy and let me tell you I miss mostly all holidays never have a day off, and always look and feel like a zombie, It really takes a special person to be with someone who is in the first responder line of work,

find someone else. :)

Anyone else read this as "high maintenance"?

Ever date a pornstar? Terrible. Bc that pu$$y aint yours!

First off, what most people don't realize is that nurses get hit on a lot. If she's setting aside any amount of time for you, she's interested. Think about it, she's in a constant setting where a lot of guys find it easy to strike a conversation. (FYI, nurses have seen and heard it all to a point where nothing really grosses them out. ) Nurses have a busy schedule, but it's usually just clustered differently from most people which is why it's a bit tricky to schedule dates... even with friends. Unless they do overtime, it's usually 4, 10-hour days a week. Sounds simple, but you basically need to know what days she has off and work it out. If she's still not hanging out with you, she's not interested.

All women are high maintenance...some are just more expensive.

I have dated very busy women and they test my patience as well! Just cant do it anymore. And yes being a nurse/doctor/emt/ma is very hectic and draining. Find someone more available.

dated a nurse. and i couldnt do it. Because when she couldnt hang out i needed up calling another chick. Just cant deal with busy ppl.

lol yea we need pic's and more info about her. Because if she is mad cool and sexy... then hold out a little more and see whats up.

I've not heard from her all day (a first). Didn't pick up my call or answer my text. So instead of sending her angry text messages I'm going to let it go haha. Last night she was like "yes!" to hanging out.

Too bad... I cooked lots of marinara meat sauce, veggies, penne pasta, and baked chicken. Also made Jello shots. So for dinner tonight I am...

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im sorry to hear, Digi. :( hope you find that special someone soon. :tup:

Thanks... it's nice not to go emo and blow up her phone expressing my thoughts. In my head I do have such thoughts since I can be pretty straight forward lol. I'm pretty happy to just play it cool and leave it be.

If I get bored, I can always drive to some bar and have drinks and talk to random people.

Here's what she missed out:
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It doesn't matter how busy you are, you don't miss a dinner date if you're interested. Sorry to say it bro, but I don't think this chick is worth it....for a real relationship anyways. If you're only looking to hit it and quit it, I wouldn't blame you for wanting to keep trying. Otherwise, move on to the next chick. Let this one come to you.

Shoulda invited a couple of us, hell we might have brought some beers

Digi- :yum:

Just moveto Kansas city already!! and maybe you wont have this problem lol but so i understand. you guys had plans tonight and she didnt show? didnt even call to say i wont make it?

You can play nurse and patient. :inoutroflpuke:

JP, Wish you best of luck dude looks like you need it. :icon17:

like some one said earlier, if she was interested and the dinner thing was atleast some what important to her, she wouldnt miss it. move on bro

i hate chicks that flakes and are way too busy in life. sorry but thats how i am.

oh i gotta go to the gym, oh i work i gotta study , oh i visit my parents, oh i need my alone time, blah blah blah if she was interested, it be more like , hmm so what time you picking me up ?

Right when I was going to head out for some fresh air she messaged me that she just got out of class (makes sense), BUT she has to go visit her dad [at work] for an emergency and apologized asking for a rain check. I played it cool and told her I was going to go out. That's it, no contact... let her do the talking. I don't have pictures since I got rid of FB months ago. She's cute, but that's it. Nothing out of the ordinary.

Yup, dealt with too many flakes... hence, I pretty much don't take anyone seriously, which is least stressful. Last year I threw a tantrum on a different girl who flaked out on the last minute (lesson learned... don't let any of this stuff affect me). What's really funny is whenever I ask her out for lunch or dinner her response is "only if you pay." :rolleyes:

@ZKraken22 - I missed the Spring Break trip to MKC, but I wouldn't mind a short trip to KC to hang out with you guys once it warms up!

thats the spirit ! so many things to keep us entertained besides women, that should be the last thing that gets you mad

You have more power than I do.

:iagree: my wife is a CNA and would work 4 12's.. and now she is a full time Nursing school student, plus she works 2 12s a week...
:iagree: x10!

sounds like you need to date a psychologist :stirthepot: :bowrofl::bowrofl::bowrofl:


at least you contained your rage issues this time! :tup: points for that

Haha well here's an update. No, I still haven't had the chance to hang out with her lately. Outside of working at the hospital, she works at her aunt's nail shop (extra money to pay for her courses at a private university). She planned on taking today off to cram for upcoming tests, and she also wanted to have dinner with me. Then her aunt demanded she come in to work till close, so there's barely any time afterward for us to hang out.

As it turns out, she's currently working on a PhD and would like to become a surgeon one day. So I can understand she has a lot going for her besides family priorities. One thing that convinces me she's not stringing me is that she calls and we chat at least once a day. Other girls only call when they are bored and need someone to take her out (and then that's it).

In terms of high maintenance, her wanting a purse of a certain price range is like us wanting a set of wheels or engine upgrades. She says she ends up getting stuff she likes on her own and never expects her man to do it for her. Just like us, we get stuff ourselves instead of expecting the lady to get it for us.

At this point I'm just going with the flow while looking around for other potential interests. :)