Bye bye Inky :(

ImportConvert · 03-02-2011, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by SophiaZ

I cannot afford the house on my own or the expensive car note...and living here in NJ..the laws are screwed up so if a short term marriage is terminated, there's no guarantee that the woman will get everything.. UNLESS she can pay for it all herself ( which I cannot)

And I just bought the car in October 2010..I doubt refinancing will make that big of a difference, if at all

AK...I won't be able to private sell unless I get rid of the negative equity first (Plan B)

So basically, it's your name on the dotted line, duel income covered it, he and you are done, responsibility reverts to the person who put their name on the dotted line, duel income is gone, you're up a creek.
Is this the summary?

That makes more sense and sucks. Sorry about your situation.

Talk to your bank/lender about missing a payment without penalty due to major life change. They might help you out with 1 payment. That will give you room to think.

tsolin01 · 03-02-2011, 09:16 AM

Sorry about your situation. Considering that he seems to be in the wrong and the divorce would be his fault, you should be able to get something out of him. With that said, it's hard to start over being single again. Good luck and hope everything works out for you.

ImportConvert · 03-02-2011, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by tsolin01

Sorry about your situation. Considering that he seems to be in the wrong and the divorce would be his fault, you should be able to get something out of him. With that said, it's hard to start over being single again. Good luck and hope everything works out for you.

This makes me a fan of separate finances. I always advised my friends to never buy anything they couldn't pay for 100% on their own if they dump their girl/she dumps them, and visa versa my female friends. I usually play the ref as I don't mess with the whole relationship game.

SophiaZ · 03-02-2011, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by ImportConvert

This makes me a fan of separate finances. I always advised my friends to never buy anything they couldn't pay for 100% on their own if they dump their girl/she dumps them, and visa versa my female friends.

Yea I understand that now. In 10 years..I really had no worries, but things come up out of nowhere and this a lesson learned unfortunately.

tsolin01 · 03-02-2011, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by ImportConvert

This makes me a fan of separate finances. I always advised my friends to never buy anything they couldn't pay for 100% on their own if they dump their girl/she dumps them, and visa versa my female friends. I usually play the ref as I don't mess with the whole relationship game.

Yea I'm definitely a supporter of separate finances. I was engaged and about 8 months from the wedding when she broke it off. I was lucky we only had bought a car together so everything else was an easy separation. I could only imagine what a nightmare a divorce would have been.

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