So here's the story of my life...

shadow2k

I'm 34yrs old, I made my mind up a long time ago. No marriage, no kids, and I intend to keep it that way. It's amazing how many people try to coax you into finding a nice girl and settling down. Not my thing. Some women are put off by this, but some feel the same way. Not everyone is dying to get married and have kids. Some seek it out at all costs. Some fall into it without knowing. And some like me will avoid it like the plague.

It's a choice, not something I'm going to grow into. I enjoy my life the way it is, not the way society tells me it should be.

ImportConvert

I know, my grandparents actually mailed me $100 for christmas with instructions to use part of it to take a girlfriend to supper. Of course I will find some random chic to go, as I try to use the gift as intended somewhat, but still, I don't want to. It's just to make them happy. I avoid that mess like the plague it is.

jakoye

You avoid chicks like the plague?

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ImportConvert

From a relationship standpoint. I have sat back and watched my friends go through break-up after break-up, divorce after divorce, and I want none of it.

jakoye

Well then YOU'RE more likely to pick up an STD since you're avoiding monogamous relationships, which are surely the best way to avoid STDs!

And also, just because marriage/relationships didn't work for your buddies/friends doesn't ipso facto mean that they won't work for you. It's all up to the individuals involved and it takes a LOT of work, but I can assure you that a healthy relationship with a modern American woman *is* actually possible!

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ImportConvert

I avoid pretty much everything and demand bloodwork if I do. Relationships just aren't smart, man. Too many lives I have seen ruined. I'll leave that stuff for you guys who are cool with losing 50% of the stuff you worked for and posting up crap like "My wife won't let me buy a new clutch but I really want one so I'm on this forum whining". I'm glad I caught on at an early age before I was in a position to waste my life on marriage. It's not natural.

jakoye

I've actually been married once before and it ended in divorce. She didn't take anything from me and we split amicably (still friends, as a matter of fact). You have a very biased and cynical view of the world and relationships. That will get you to the middle of no and where in life.

No man is an island and everyone needs love. I would advise you to reconsider your outlook and realize that just because Tom, **** and Harry all had bad marriages does not mean that you too will have a bad marriage. You are in charge of your own destiny. You make your own future. Maybe you're the rare kind of person that is happy being a hermit, but I doubt that. A hermit would never post on a public forum on the Internet.

Give love a chance, son. It will surprise you and reward you in ways you can't even imagine.

Now this ends our public service announcement for the evening.

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kenchan

it was a joke... i honestly dont care how you or anyone here live their lives. enjoy it the way you want to.

i can tell you though, that having kids is not the end of the world for dads.