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DIGItonium · 01-07-2014, 11:43 AM

One of my dad's friends said "For your new years resolution, you need to get a girlfriend. Then a wife." I asked him "Both, or wife first, then girlfriend?" He said "No, no! You'll get in trouble if you do that."

There's this girl, who moved here from Vietnam about 2 years ago and obviously likes me (possibly wants to marry me to get permanent residence). She hangs out at my parents house at least once a week to the point my dad's friends wonder why I won't introduce them to my "girlfriend." I tell them I don't have one, and I'm told "She's upstairs." SMH. She's around 24 now, and she spends a lot of time with my mom. Both of my parents bugged me about her for awhile. Even my aunt suggested I give her a chance. Quite honestly, I've hung out with her a few times. That's it... no attraction. 2014... moving on.

That's the thing about most of these girls in or from Vietnam. Some of them are fairly aggressive, and it's easy to sense the motive with these girls. I look into her eyes, and I get weird vibes.

I definitely don't want to come off as desperate or looking to get married. I'm just trying to make the right moves like playing chess (not a chess player). I just want to have fun with this girl, and who knows what it'll lead to.

Chuck33079 · 01-07-2014, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

One of my dad's friends said "For your new years resolution, you need to get a girlfriend. Then a wife." I asked him "Both, or wife first, then girlfriend?" He said "No, no! You'll get in trouble if you do that."

There's this girl, who moved here from Vietnam about 2 years ago and obviously likes me (possibly wants to marry me to get permanent residence). She hangs out at my parents house at least once a week to the point my dad's friends wonder why I won't introduce them to my "girlfriend." I tell them I don't have one, and I'm told "She's upstairs." SMH. She's around 24 now, and she spends a lot of time with my mom. Both of my parents bugged me about her for awhile. Even my aunt suggested I give her a chance. Quite honestly, I've hung out with her a few times. That's it... no attraction. 2014... moving on.

That's the thing about most of these girls in or from Vietnam. Some of them are fairly aggressive, and it's easy to sense the motive with these girls. I look into her eyes, and I get weird vibes.

I definitely don't want to come off as desperate or looking to get married. I'm just trying to make the right moves like playing chess (not a chess player). I just want to have fun with this girl, and who knows what it'll lead to.

So maybe I'm missing something, but why not look for non-Vietnamese chicks? I've never had a good experience with one. You **** them, not date them if you value your wallet.

DIGItonium · 01-07-2014, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

So maybe I'm missing something, but why not look for non-Vietnamese chicks? I've never had a good experience with one. You **** them, not date them if you value your wallet.

Ain't that the truth! The friend I mentioned earlier gave up on Asian girls completely.

The last mixed girl I dated was Vietnamese/French and was culturally Vietnamese. It was a PITA of a relationship and lasted 6 months. The one I'm currently talking to is also mixed, but she is culturally Caucasian. I've never dated a white girl before, so this could get interesting if I play my cards right. She stays positive with her personality and is fairly attractive, so I'm sure she's tired of a bunch of dudes hitting on her with the same lines and whatnot. I'm trying to avoid that slippery slope.

In the meantime, I still keep my options open.

Chuck33079 · 01-07-2014, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

Ain't that the truth! The friend I mentioned earlier gave up on Asian girls completely.

The last mixed girl I dated was Vietnamese/French, and was culturally Vietnamese. It was a PITA of a relationship and lasted 6 months. The one I'm currently talking to is also mixed, but she is culturally Caucasian. I've never dated a white girl before, so this could get interesting if I play my cards right. She stays positive with her personality and is fairly attractive, so I'm sure she's tired of a bunch of dudes hitting on her with the same lines and whatnot. I'm trying to avoid that slippery slope.

In the meantime, I still keep my options open.

I'm approaching a potentially racially charged subject with typical white guy ignorance, but I've got to ask- are most Asian girls superficial and money hungry, or is it just the ones who will date white guys? I have pretty good sample size that fit that stereotype to a T.

DIGItonium · 01-07-2014, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

I'm approaching a potentially racially charged subject with typical white guy ignorance, but I've got to ask- are most Asian girls superficial and money hungry, or is it just the ones who will date white guys? I have pretty good sample size that fit that stereotype to a T.

Summary of 2013

My ex pretty much uses guys for food, money, and drinks. I was one of the victims as of last year when she wanted to get in touch with me again. I'd offer my care for her, and she goes off sleeping with some dude because she liked him. She thinks any of these dudes [business owners with money] might be the one, but they either dump her or tell her they don't want to be serious. Talks about being broke and money stuff a lot.
A girl I hung out talked about money stuff a lot and bragged about her purse collection including a $5k purse. Complained about her ex-bfs spending money on their cars. Barely lasted 2 days.
Another one is showing interest hanging out with me, but my friends say she dates guys for money.
The one that hangs out with my mom is nice, but she seems to bribe them with gifts and kindness. Claims my mom is her close friend. Even watches movies with her and her friend till 3AM. It's obvious she's gotta motive, and I don't fall for that jazz.

XiP · 01-07-2014, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by DIGItonium

Summary of 2013

My ex pretty much uses guys for food, money, and drinks. I was one of the victims as of last year when she wanted to get in touch with me again. I'd offer my care for her, and she goes off sleeping with some dude because she liked him. She thinks any of these dudes [business owners with money] might be the one, but they either dump her or tell her they don't want to be serious. Talks about being broke and money stuff a lot.
A girl I hung out talked about money stuff a lot and bragged about her purse collection including a $5k purse. Complained about her ex-bfs spending money on their cars. Barely lasted 2 days.
Another one is showing interest hanging out with me, but my friends say she dates guys for money.
The one that hangs out with my mom is nice, but she seems to bribe them with gifts and kindness. Claims my mom is her close friend. Even watches movies with her and her friend till 3AM. It's obvious she's gotta motive, and I don't fall for that jazz.

where are you going to find girls who are attracted to money? i haven't been able to find girls like that... all the ones i know have their own stable careers and DGAF about money
people keep saying beware of golddiggers but i don't know a single golddigger

Haboob · 01-07-2014, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by XiP

where are you going to find girls who are attracted to money? i haven't been able to find girls like that... all the ones i know have their own stable careers and DGAF about money
people keep saying beware of golddiggers but i don't know a single golddigger

Scottsdale, AZ.

Chuck33079 · 01-07-2014, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by XiP

where are you going to find girls who are attracted to money? i haven't been able to find girls like that... all the ones i know have their own stable careers and DGAF about money

You're looking at the wrong places then. Go to a decent bar. Valet the Porsche. Take your time getting out of it.

Cmike2780 · 01-07-2014, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by XiP

where are you going to find girls who are attracted to money? i haven't been able to find girls like that... all the ones i know have their own stable careers and DGAF about money
people keep saying beware of golddiggers but i don't know a single golddigger

lol, Vegas Baby!

exsanity · 01-07-2014, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Chuck33079

I'm approaching a potentially racially charged subject with typical white guy ignorance, but I've got to ask- are most Asian girls superficial and money hungry or is it just the ones who will date white guys? I have pretty good sample size that fit that stereotype to a T.

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01-07-2014, 11:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
DIGItonium A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Kansas Posts: 3,800 Drives: 09 Z34-TT 6MT Rep Power: 44	One of my dad's friends said "For your new years resolution, you need to get a girlfriend. Then a wife." I asked him "Both, or wife first, then girlfriend?" He said "No, no! You'll get in trouble if you do that." There's this girl, who moved here from Vietnam about 2 years ago and obviously likes me (possibly wants to marry me to get permanent residence). She hangs out at my parents house at least once a week to the point my dad's friends wonder why I won't introduce them to my "girlfriend." I tell them I don't have one, and I'm told "She's upstairs." SMH. She's around 24 now, and she spends a lot of time with my mom. Both of my parents bugged me about her for awhile. Even my aunt suggested I give her a chance. Quite honestly, I've hung out with her a few times. That's it... no attraction. 2014... moving on. That's the thing about most of these girls in or from Vietnam. Some of them are fairly aggressive, and it's easy to sense the motive with these girls. I look into her eyes, and I get weird vibes. I definitely don't want to come off as desperate or looking to get married. I'm just trying to make the right moves like playing chess (not a chess player). I just want to have fun with this girl, and who knows what it'll lead to. XiP likes this. __________________

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