Interesting thread....http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y29...psd50dfaa6.gif

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had a date planned for saturday night
and i just found out i have to work on saturday night. now i have to tell her that on a friday evening, sounds legit... -_-

this is how i feel about work right now
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That stinks man. Just ask if you can reschedule. I'm sure she'll understand; things happen.


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You should have bailed outta there before lumberg caught you =(

I had a date planned for July and I just found out I may have to stay until September.. :shakes head:

:iagree: do lunch or something instead. Then try for a fancy lunch on Sunday. :tup:

Just turned 40, enjoying single life. A lot cheaper!

95% of girls out there are after what they think they can GAIN: $ or Attention or both, in fact, I wonder if any women really love men, just ONLY what they can GET from men.

Sadly if they see the Z, they think you have $, and it's all over.

I'm still hopeful to meet a financially independent AND emotionally stable woman that knows herself, and doens't want kids (my odds are .00001%).

I think women not born in the U.S. are simply Better people, and care a lot less about the money/materialism, and they COOK!!! (and usually are in shape).

I feel sorry for you guys. IMHO the only true love out there are people who find each other early in life, there is so much less baggage and you grow and experience all the things in life together.
I know the younger generations are different and people are getting married older if at all,
that said, I personally wouldn't want to date or marry someone ( male or female )who has been dating or on the bar scene for 10 / 20 years! Just too much baggage!
Sex has become impersonal, just something you do, without intamicy which is ok to a point,
but after 10 / 20 yrs...... well you get the point. Once again this is my opinion, and everyone knows what that is worth!

I got married later in life (31), mostly because of being a care-giver for Mom/Dad and then just Dad after Mom passed away. I wasn't really looking and then this cutie started at work. We worked in the same department and were just friends.

One day, a coworker asked if we wanted to go to a VFW for an event where you bet on horses and then watched a video where you saw them race. It sounded like fun, so we said we'd go. We were supposed to meet for dinner first, but the coworker asked if I would drive. Turns out, the one coworker said she would meet us later, so I was asked to pick up the cutie.

We ate dinner then went to the VFW and had a blast. We had so much in common that it was as if we knew each other forever. We dated for 9 months and then got married. It's been over 31-years and we are still best friends and were coworkers until she retired last June.

We found out later that we were set-up just as a joke, because no one thought the date would go as-well-as it did.

The cutie told me that she had been married before, but it didn't bother me at all. I only knew that she was the one for me...it's funny how things turn out in life...and to me, this is the ultimate "things happen for a reason" lesson.

Holy thread revival batman! You guys bring up good points. Society today is nowhere near the way it was especially with social media, dating apps, etc.

6 years later and I am still single. Granted, I may have had a couple of opportunities to commit to one, but I was not attracted to the person. There were some I was attracted to, but they were not into me and most took advantage of my kindness. I can't help being "nice" because that is how I am with everyone, and past experiences made me who I am today.

First and foremost, I despise being "hooked up" because the pressure stresses me out. All bad experiences. I also hate being stuck texting for hours on the phone everyday.

People always try to introduce me to someone in VN, and it's quite obvious they're trying to use me as a sponsor. The most recent was some 19 year old who had 3 FB profiles. Her English was terribad, insisted on talking no the phone, kept asking about my whereabouts, etc., in a span of 2-3 days. Found out she added one of my friends, and he said she was clearly desperate to move to the states. I blocked everything.

My aunt introduced me to several girls from VN. The girls were clingy or crazy. One belittled and questioned my opinions and shared our conversation with my aunt. Another is 37-38 today and never had a bf. She ignored/blocked me. Turns out she wasn't interested in guys. A couple years later, fearing she was getting too old, tried to contact me through my aunt. Last one ignored/blocked my request, but later kept trying to get a hold of me after regretting the decision. Honestly I don't think these girls were interested, but my aunt would lie about it. She said my cousin was close to one of the girls, and my she had no clue who she was. My aunt got way too nosy, so I blocked her and have not talked to her since.

My parents bugged me about my friend's cousin (22 at the time) from VN. We hung out a few times, but I couldn't get myself to love her. She would spend time with my parents on a weekly basis and bring gifts. When we got together with friends she was always upstairs with my mom. She's nice, but this was too weird. She was desperate for a green card, too.

A couple of months ago at my parent's house some girl was there. She was my friend's school friend. My dad sent me a screen cap of her FB profile and told me to talk to her. Heck no! That's not how it works. There was a concert last night, and my parents told me that she was joining them and kept pestering me all week while I was stressed out at work. Why the heck would I want to meet up and get to know a girl while hanging out with my parents!? Their constant involvement in my life is one reason why my ex left me, and why it complicates my personal life. My relatives tried to intervene to no avail.

Thursday I took the day off to run errands and get ready for a dinner date. This girl, who twice last month invited her friend to join in which I paid for everything, tried to pull this stunt again last minute. I finally spoke up about it, and it didn't end well. It was obvious what was going on, it's proof of what it is like today.

Meet my asian GF.
Wish I was single.

Green card to get women overseas! Goodness.
Marry me instead so I wont get deported! Lol

Take your pick!
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Geez you've got better selection than the ones I've got. Based on my cousin's current complicated situation, he also told me to enjoy the single life the best I can. I'm sure you guys stay single because you are happy with your life the way it is right now - independent and drama free. If anything, no strings attached.

On a side note, Zoren 370z, where in FL are you? I've got friends in Tampa, and I might try a little harder to find software/electrical engineering positions and get the out of Kansas.

So here's my experience with local girls in Kansas (one exception):

• Girl who always brings this guy along when we meet up. They don't claim each other, but it's obvious. Heck, I ended up paying the bill several times. She contacted when she was in town and planned to meet up for breakfast. Last minute she asked if she could invite the same guy. I declined and we never spoke since.
• Known her over 5 years - moved from VN. Taken her out several times even on Valentines. I would pay for everything, drive, cook, clean, etc. When I try to get close she's shove me hard. When I hosted my birthday party she demanded I serve only Vietnamese food, and that I pick her up because my house was too far. I and my friends ignored her, so she never made it. We rarely talk, but she always calls me up when she needed something: computer help, resume, job, and even boredom. Says she wants to be a manager, but has no skill or experience. Wants a guy who makes more money than she does so she doesn't have to work so hard. Very entitled. The most recent call was when she asked about job openings since it has been 2 years since internship and still no job. With no regard to my time she was imperative I help her with interview skills. I declined. She said "sorry for making you think I only need you when I call you." She called the kettle black.:facepalm:
• Met a girl at my cousin's wedding in TX. Super outgoing, fun to talk to, and we nerd out about cars. We didn't talk much afterward. Finally told me she just got out of a relationship and wasn't interested in anything. :confused:Well 2 weeks later she was with her new guy, got pregnant, found out he was talking to 4 other girls, drama, gave birth, put up with abuse, he left, and is now a single momma.
• Met a girl at another wedding. I've known her and her sister for years. Oh, her sister. We've hung out a couple of times. All I do is pay for dinner, and it doesn't get much further than that. This one... same deal, but she's upfront about money stuff since she's always going to Vegas. Says if I want to attract women then I should get the VIP table and invite them over. I told her I'm no chump. That didn't end well.
• This one previously only talked to me when she needed help with something. A couple of times at a local concert with friends she called me up to escort her in from the parking lot and save her a seat. First time, out of curiosity, I escorted her in. Then a group of girls carried her away and I never heard from her. Second time I ignored her and she got mad. Later sat next to me and people started assuming we were an item. I ignored her enough she finally left. Months later I finally decided to take her out. We had a good time at dinner. She said she never had a bf (at 27). Well we never talk much after that. Found out coming out of high school she had an affair with a married man, and she's still hung up on him till this day.
• Met a girl 1.5 years ago, who is a server of a restaurant with pretty servers if you get my drift. I didn't think much of it. Last month she told me she broke up with her bf. I decided to take the risk and ask her out. We went to eat a couple of times, but she would bring her friend/coworker along. They just stare at the bill and I end up paying for it. So I didn't talk to any of them for a few weeks until she contacted me again. From that point we ended up talking more often and got closer (more flirting, body contact, etc.). I even got stuff for her like food and cough drops. She went as far as saying "love you" several times. So I planned post-Valentines dinner last week. That day she asked me to come see her, but bring red bull. Almost 2 hours before dinner she text me asking if she can bring her friend along since they've not hung out in a long time. I declined. Frustrated, I confront them both. I told her I tried to make this a special night. She said it was still special with her joining us. That didn't end well. She bailed because I made her feel pressured because she just got out of a relationship. That was the end of it.

Trust me. I know where all of this this is going, but I wanted to see how far in the short amount of time they would take it. It's pretty pathetic that this is what they do to guys who pour their hearts out (string them along), but are bitter about their exes treating them like dirt. Plus, I notice many of these girls enjoy being treated like a girlfriend, but without the relationship part. After observing my recent experiences, I can finally not give a crap, not do much, say "no" more often, and be assertive about splitting the check.

^^Digit I’ll read it later working now at the hospital. I promise

I live in a small town with population of 15K in Lake City.
Women are hard to get in here as they are still in the idea of ending up with the same caucasean race. They find it taboo to date a black guy or Asian race.

Many pretty white women but they like there men chewing tobacco and driving big trucks with front tooth missing! Lol