Bro In Law Ruining my Wifes Family!!Advice?

TreeSemdyZee · 11-19-2010, 07:47 PM

Your wife and MIL are enabling him to continue in his douchedness. Everyone needs to quit loaning him things and boot him out on his ear. He's quite old enough to be on his own.
If he steals things from you, I'd confront him. If he lies about it. Get evidence and have him arrested. May be harsh, but might wake the little twerp up.

XwChriswX · 11-19-2010, 08:48 PM

Basically it's the phrase, "Fool me once, shame on you... Fool me twice, shame on me" playing over and over again.

You said you had friends in law enforcement... I would pay one of them one day to just act as if they are busting the kid, handcuff him and put him in the back of the car. And bring him straight to your house for an intervention with everyone involved. And basically you let the family grow some balls and put it on the line. He gets one SINGULAR last chance, no more enabling. If he screws up again, he Will go to jail. Either by being arrested, or by the family pressing charges for the stolen goods and admitting he's driving without a license. And then you put the responsibility on him. He's 23 years old. Old enough to drink, old enough to vote, old enough to smoke, old enough to enlist for his country. He's old enough to accept the repercussions of his actions. And if he doesn't choose to do it the easy way, then he'll have to do it the hard way.

Just my

SmoothZ · 11-19-2010, 08:58 PM

To the OP: I read your whole first post. My summary is this: Since your inlaws aren't really doing anything proactive about it, I think it's time for you to step in and do it. Whether you want them to know or not is up to you, but your BIL is a d-bag that needs to be taken out.

He needs to be punished instead of enabled, which is what your inlaws are doing for him. As long as he knows they will support him or cave in, he's going to continue to play that game and cause untold stress on you.

You and your family need to tackle the source of the stress, pure and simple. Cut him off completely to start off with, or document all his shenanigans and report what you can to the local authorities. If he steals, report it. If he lies, document it.

I know it's easy for me to type it, but I think your BIL is a waste of good air. People like him have no excuse to live in our society. Guys like him are worthless and are parasites to the rest of us.

11-19-2010, 08:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
XwChriswX WFLYIDNNE Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: In The Fastlane Posts: 50,648 Drives: 02 GDB WRX Rep Power: 453	Basically it's the phrase, "Fool me once, shame on you... Fool me twice, shame on me" playing over and over again. You said you had friends in law enforcement... I would pay one of them one day to just act as if they are busting the kid, handcuff him and put him in the back of the car. And bring him straight to your house for an intervention with everyone involved. And basically you let the family grow some balls and put it on the line. He gets one SINGULAR last chance, no more enabling. If he screws up again, he Will go to jail. Either by being arrested, or by the family pressing charges for the stolen goods and admitting he's driving without a license. And then you put the responsibility on him. He's 23 years old. Old enough to drink, old enough to vote, old enough to smoke, old enough to enlist for his country. He's old enough to accept the repercussions of his actions. And if he doesn't choose to do it the easy way, then he'll have to do it the hard way. Just my __________________ Bonnie - Stage 2, Audio build coming this fall! R.I.P. Abby 3/29/10 - 3/30/14

11-19-2010, 08:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
SmoothZ A True Z Fanatic Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Arrakis Posts: 7,952 Drives: giant sandworm Rep Power: 36	To the OP: I read your whole first post. My summary is this: Since your inlaws aren't really doing anything proactive about it, I think it's time for you to step in and do it. Whether you want them to know or not is up to you, but your BIL is a d-bag that needs to be taken out. He needs to be punished instead of enabled, which is what your inlaws are doing for him. As long as he knows they will support him or cave in, he's going to continue to play that game and cause untold stress on you. You and your family need to tackle the source of the stress, pure and simple. Cut him off completely to start off with, or document all his shenanigans and report what you can to the local authorities. If he steals, report it. If he lies, document it. I know it's easy for me to type it, but I think your BIL is a waste of good air. People like him have no excuse to live in our society. Guys like him are worthless and are parasites to the rest of us. __________________ "Once you go Asian, you never go Caucasian." "I talk to myself, and when I do that, I know I'm talking to an intelligent person."

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11-19-2010, 07:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
TreeSemdyZee Premium Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Kentuck-IANA Age: 61 Posts: 4,887 Drives: '09 370 & ‘14 Juke Rep Power: 27409	Your wife and MIL are enabling him to continue in his douchedness. Everyone needs to quit loaning him things and boot him out on his ear. He's quite old enough to be on his own. If he steals things from you, I'd confront him. If he lies about it. Get evidence and have him arrested. May be harsh, but might wake the little twerp up.