Wives?
 

Am I the only one who looks at parts and tries to determine how to justify the need or cost to their wife?

Normally the conversation goes like this:

"Hey I found this super rare JDM part that would look awesome on my z."

"Your car has less than 600 miles, what does it do?"

"Look pretty."

"Doesn't it already look pretty for the 40K you paid for it?"

That's about when I decide its a battle not worth the causalities.

This is what I love about being 21. Don't deal with that crap

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This is what I love about being 60. Don't deal with that crap.

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This is what I love about being single. Don't deal with that crap.

Lol

I miss being single

I get what you mean. I dont really justify what i spend to mine, but obviously once i buy parts, critics rain and she always sees it as a waste of money.

On the flip side, i do the same to her when buys her cr@p... :tup:

Thats why I have a lot of them...as spare parts?:wtf2:

This is what I love about the Z being her car; an add on that looks pretty, "sure get it"!

I have been married almost 20 years and never felt the need to ask for permission or justify any car part.

My wife understands the concept of "boys and their toys." :icon17: Buy anything I want, long as we don't need anything else at the time, and I have the money for it. :tup: Trying to figure out now. How to explain to her I need a '16 ACR Viper in the garage. :eek:

Did you mean "casualty"?

At any rate. My wife is quite different than yours. When I found something for the Z and it's of lower value (around $500 or under), I go ahead and get it. If it's more, I'll mention it to her and mull it over for a few days. Besides, the Z is my wife's daily driver/winter beater and she is into cars; she is not immersed in and borderline obsessed with cars like me but she is an average car enthusiast. The mentioning part is not about justification, I'm fully capable of doing that, but it's part of being married.

Also, very rarely I go for cosmetics alone and my wife knows and understands that the modifications will make her car corner harder (with much less understeer!), stop shorter, react quicker, and, lastly, look better; plus she actually knows how to utilize those aspects. Wheels are the largest cosmetic-related modification for me and they better be larger and wider along with improved looks, I can't stand OEM sizes. Most of my mods are related to suspension. Anti-sway bars are usually the first volley so those stickier and wider tires can be utilized better around corners.

This. Been married for 7 years and have never needed to ask permission to buy anything for the car. My wife supports my hobby/addiction the same way I support whatever she does. Obviously, I don't run up debt on any hobby but that should be standard practice anyway. Maybe try involving her with the car? My wife comes to the track, help with installs wherever she can (even it's just bringing beer and samiches) and cleans it with me. Then when I buy sh!t for the car she feels included and the door is wide open.


Not to rub it in but on my 350z she texted me a picture of the Work wheels I had for it and actually said "bronze Works would like pretty on the car you should buy them!" That was a good day lol.

There is never any discussion about how we spend our money. We save/invest more than 35% of our gross income and have no debt and grown kids.

I earn$pend :rock: when I want. Wife dont care.

My wife earn$pends :rock: when she wants. I don't care either.

Learn to master "It's better to beg for forgiveness.............."

this thread makes me laugh. i bet half the posters in here would go scurrying behind the couch if their wives saw them posting. :rofl2:

i´ve lived through all the stages with my wife. if you are spending money irresponsibly on a car then your wife could and should give you sh!t. if you are well off enough to have some money left at the end of the month but you have to take turns on big purchases, then she should weigh in, but let you do what you want. if you have a budget that has enough in it for both of you to have an "allowance" then she shouldn´t care how you spend it.

i feel blessed to finally have gotten to the final stage and not have to worry, but i don´t forget what it was like to have a passion for cars and barely have enough to pay rent and eat (or for car parts and ramen :rofl2: and a lot bitching and complaining from the wife).

I always talk to her about what I want to buy for the cars/guns/electronic as a courtesy, but I've never been told I can't get something. Hey, she drives the car too and needs righteous tunes. The guns are merely to protect her. ...and don't tell me 7.1 surround doesn't make you smile. :-) She has her pressures too (fancy underwear/sparkly things/expensive hair product).

Buy it and answer questions later...been married for 20+ yrs , what is she gonna leave me cause I dropped 5k on an audio system... Ummm you remember 349k I spent on your house that I'll never pay for...lol, nuff said !

Dont ask permission of course they will say no, just buy what the hell you want...as long as you don't jeopardize the welfare of your family or deprive of a meal and take care of bills like you should...just do it !

There are two kinds of men in the world -- those who are right and those who are married.

really I think after the money I spent on my '67 mustang build she's a little gun shy now. She's also extremely frugal and practical. Like to the point we got married at the courthouse because she couldn't see any practical purpose to wasting money on a wedding that could be used for a down payment on a house. I guess I got lucky there, just annoying some times.

As the "wife" with the car this thread is making me laugh.

Whos the bread winner in this marriage?

If its you, then case closed. Its not like your taking food off the dinner table....

I swear i hate how women try to castrate men through thier wallets. My gf is in full support of my addiction. She mods her car too. Its a match made in heaven

This **** reminds me of this epic thread

http://www.jeepforum.com/forum/f11/9...1149721?page=1

:icon18:

:rofl2::rofl2:

EPIC is right! :rofl2:

Could care less what my wife thinks, it's my money and I'll do whatever I choose to with it. In fact, she didn't even know I was getting the Nismo. I pulled up in the driveway, moved my SRT8 off one side of the garage and pulled the Z in and asked her to take me back to the dealer to get my SmartCar. All she said was " Wow another 2 seater ", Lol. I'm the responsible one when it comes to money and as long as the house is straight and my sons have everything they want then I'm good. Been married 17 years and my wife does what she pleases with her money, Exotic Vacations with her friends is her thing and I have no right nor do I question her on it. It kills me when guys on here actually post that they have to get an ok from there wives or even worse their GF's to spend their own money on something they want. For crying out loud "GROW A SET" !!!!

Preach. This is key actually. Mutual support is everything. Actually, Stacey told me the other day I was neglecting my Karmann Ghia build. I guess the new Z is distracting me.

Gentlemen,all i have to say is i kinda' miss my wife bitching (she passed away in 2013) about the money i spent on my S14 (hence my username)but she drove an 87 300ZX and didn't mind me spending money on it.We had our limits on what we would spend(cars or otherwise)before we would discuss it.

My wife is ok with it for the most part. Although I did show up at home with a '15 GMC Thursday she wasn't overly happy about. LOL

I know what you mean. I worn your shoes. My first wife passed away in 2011. Married for 30 yrs. We was each other's balancing act to speak of. Remarried 2 years ago to a wonder woman who supports me in everything I do. Says I need hobbies for retirement. :tup:

Looking at your pic I thought - You can never have enough pickups!

Yep! the old one has 2 buckets, the new one has a bench, and the silver one is a crew cab and 4x4...lol and my wife's DD.

Separate bank accounts parts shipped to work.

How much is that intake? $50
Do you really need rims? Yep. How much do they cost? $50
Amuse kit? Yep. Is it expensive? about $50
Meisterschaft exhaust? That looks expensive. Nope, about 50 bucks
ohhh.... ok

A lot of great answers here. My old car used to go for "oil change" quite often and she wouldn't notice the mods at all :). When I did a suspension upgrade on the bimmer she noticed it and asked why the car feels so nice now. I told her it's the air pressure :p. In fact it was a whole M Performance suspension kit :).
I even changed the steering wheel and she didn't notice :)

Yeah separate bank account and parts shipped to work / dealership / Indy shop directly helps.

But the flip side is.. When you're lying, you're putting more pressure on yourself to be financially responsible for the family.


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We both earn good money, and put a good chunk in a joint checking and savings, but we keep what's left - and it's ours to spend on whatever we want, whenever we want.

Therefore, it's my money, so I do what I want with it. I do occasionally ask her for advice, which she's pretty reluctant to give - because it's my money, and I should do what I want with it. Her usual answer is "If it will make you happy I think you should."

I'm sure if we just put 100% of our money in a joint account we'd take turns complaining about how pointless the other person's wants were, because I don't see a point in having more than 2 pairs of shoes and she doesn't see a point in having more than one car, but luckily we don't have to do that.