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my wife is the boss cuz she controls the fun hole. But seriously. A marage is about give and take. Do I go around doing whatever I like when ever I like cuz I am a "Man". NO not at all we make decisions about what we are going to o with our money. I work she works and eventhough i make 4X what she make we both get an equil say. Funny thg is we both know that the other can do whatevery they want and neither of us would give a damn if one showed up with a new car with out talking about it. But we both respct eachother enough to not do that and know what the meaning of sharing your life with someone is. Not just married for the cooking and sex from her and your pay check to her. ( Whores are cheeper you should not have married)

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy (Post 200724)

Yea..grow a pair.....If you let her handle the money then you are a fool....First off let me say nowhere...and I mean nowhere does it say anywhere that the guy has to give his wife the paycheck or let her handle the financial responsibilities in a marriage.

When I got married 14 years ago my wife said she would take care of being the bill payment maker in the household. I told her that I was perfectly capable of doing that job myself. I told her in no uncertain terms that I was NOT going to be handing her my paychecks as I earned and I will pay the household bills. I then turned around and also stated that I expect to receive from her every paycheck of hers that fraction of money out of each of her paychecks relative to our respective earnings.

When I bought the 1997 Cobra Mustang she didn't say anything. A year later I bought her a new van she wanted. After two years she began make noise about the Cobra. I eventually sold it ti shut her mouth up. I bought an XTerra at that time. After 3 years in the XTerra I saw the new (at that time) 2003 Mustang Cobra with the stock blower. I mentioned it to her and she said "NO". I turned right around that next weekend and went out and traded the XTerra and bought the 2003 Cobra Mustang and laid $4000 down.

I brought it home and she blew her top. I proceded to to her that the first time she bitched, moaned and groaned over the 1997 Cobra, I got rid of it much to my consternation. I said that I didn't want to hear a damn thing about the 2003 Cobra because if she does this time she is the one whom I am going to put out the door.

She said I wouldn't dare...and I came right back and said watch me. I then told her that I raised 5 kids of hers without an ounce of child support coming in from her ex. I also stated that I had a new 2000 sq-foot house built for us and all new furniture for the entire new house. I have made sure that all bills have been paid and food on the table. And I am the one that bought her a 2006 XTerra to replaced the aged van. And I was able to do all that by working my damn *** off since the day we got married.

I then told her there will never be a day in this marriage where she will ever say to me again NO when I want something for myself because I sure as hell earned every damn penny of it and then some.

She made some grumbles when I bought my 370Z but all I said to her was remember what I told you several years ago...I reminder her to not even make the mistake of thinking I wouldn't put her out.

My paycheck is my money...I worked for it...I earned it....I'm the one that paid for my entire college and graduated with a degree so I could make better money back in the 70's while she was out spreading her legs and having 5 kids by 2 other men - the kids I all ended up raising in those 14 years. So I'm the one who is going to control how it gets spent....because I did my g-damn time!!!!

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

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Originally Posted by dad (Post 202690)

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

:iagree:

This guy is over 50.. I mean damn, it's not like he is in his mid 20s with no savings and his career is in flux or whatever..

Sorry, but if you can't get a little enjoyment at that age after working hard for so long, something is wrong..

I say go you for going for it. You never know what tomorrow can bring, enjoy life while you can

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Originally Posted by shumby (Post 202687)

well said shumby

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Originally Posted by shumby (Post 202687)

I think you people need to take a look at my original post more closely. It is filled with evidence that she and teh kids are well provided for and wanton for nothing. I never said anything about doing whatever I want to do just because I am a man. I plainly stated that I have not allowed myself to give up my paycheck to the person in the marriage that DID NOT EARN IT.

I never said I didn't respect heer or that I make all the decisions. I said I retained my right to wear the pants in the family and make the decisions because I am perfectly capable of it.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in buy myself something for all the hard work I do as long as all the bills are paid for and no one is wanting.

So how about all you ball-less and jealous folks quit taking what I said and twisting it all up beyond what was really said.....or else enroll yourselves in a good 1st grade reading program and learn to read.

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Originally Posted by dad (Post 202690)

I can't help but wonder! Would you show her what you have written here?

Actually she came down the steps and came over to read it while I was writing tonight. Her sum-total reaction was "UMPH".

She understands where her bread gets its butter.

you seem to trat you wife like a camodity and not a partner in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy (Post 200724)

back in the 70's while she was out spreading her legs and having 5 kids by 2 other men - the kids I all ended up raising in those 14 years. So I'm the one who is going to control how it gets spent....because I did my g-damn time!!!!

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy (Post 202753)

She understands where her bread gets its butter.

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Originally Posted by ZKindaGuy (Post 202744)

I never said I didn't respect heer

You call these statements, you have made respectful?

BINGO. It unfortunate that many men less than 45 years of age have been brainwashed into thinking they have to get in touch with some non-existent "feminine side" in order to be able to have a good marriage.

Those kinds of "men" don't even realize they have been completely dominated. I compare it to a person smiling and saying "thank-you to a cop who just gave him a speeding ticket........completely owned by another person.

wow man. whats the whole point of getting married if its still a my/your relationship. I thought marriage was supposed to be an "our" type relationship....no boundaries, etc. mutual respect, making decisions together and all. I mean...I dont get ur whole relationship, but I have never been married...so maybe theres something im missing.

^^^^^ $20 says his wife is in charge and meets him with a 8" strapon and a tube of astroglide everyother night. lol

Sorry tha was for Zkind not you

ssqpolo, you are missing noting. Zkind just has a f'ed up view of marage. With no respect for his wife and I would guess very little respect for women in general.