Personally, I don't want kids, and most mentally stable women do.
Therefore I only date.
I'm also not a fan of gambling half my money on a marriage contract.

:icon17: I chuckled. A guy who works next to me is in your shoes as well (at 38). He thinks marriage is overrated. He likes to date around as well, so he'll use dating apps and whatnot. It sounds like an adventure, so every now and then he'll have interesting stories about his encounters.

Others who have been through at least once divorce, already has kids, will say the same. They see no point in getting married again or having more kids.

don't like it? then don't read it. plenty of other threads to read.

btw, what oil should i be using?

Ugh, I hate that. And I always feel bad saying so, because then I get a ton of defensive responses like "Small talk sucks! Don't hate me because I'm an introvert!", etc. But the ability to make decent conversation with a stranger is important to me.

And I thought Z drivers were supposed to be cool. Disappointment sucks, don't it? ;)

Because it makes for a really long first date?

I mean, for example I love baseball and enjoy going to games, but I can't imagine doing that as a first date. That's a lot of time to be "locked in" with someone you don't know yet. (And what if it turns out you can't stand each other and then there are extra innings?!?)

"The Lonely Driver's Club"...LOL!

What's been hard for me is finding men who don't want kids but still like them. I've never wanted to be a parent, but I love kids -- babies, toddlers, whatever, just as long as they aren't mine. I adore my 12-year-old "nephew" (who has already asked if he can drive my Z when he turns 16!), and I can't imagine being serious about someone who wouldn't want to hang out with him. I generally don't click with people who don't like children or animals (I have a dog).

(Single dads would seem to be the answer right? Except that a lot of them don't want to date childless women, because they're convinced we'd never really understand that their kid comes first.)

KY Synthetic. :tiphat:

Met up with a friend of mine at the bar and we talked a bit (about everything). She kind of subtly told me that if/when I'm out, my posture should be more inviting or open.

Makes sense, and this is something I "knew" in the back of my mind, but never really realized I wasn't doing it.

Who say's that was towards you?;)

I honestly don't care about your opinion of me. My previous post were not meant for you. Go write it in a diary, I honestly don't care. I just wanted to help a fellow member out. He doesn't even have to listen to a single advice or agree with any of it. If you don't like what I have to say, ignore it. Being a 42 year old with tits and a vagina doesn't make you any more of an expert on dating than the rest of us. Relationships are messy, complex and no two are the same. If it works for you, great. If you think a certain way, that's great too. If you don't agree when I say "all women think the same," ignore it.

I'd rather let this go... You should do the same.

Just got friend zoned. She told me she was already seeing someone before she met me. She thinks that we should be friends for now, and hopes I'm not mad, but would love to stay friends. O_o

Personally, I'd forget her number. She was seeing someone already? Sounds like she's playing games. Tell her you've got enough friends.

Yup. I guess sh*t got serious haha. All that speech about me being a great guy and that I deserve a good girl yaddy yadda. That doesn't change anything. At least I didn't blow up her phone or or go emo... lessons learned dealing with the ex for the past couple of years since the break up.

Here's what I made this morning since I anticipated it all along. It's that typical vibe, deja vu, etc., feeling.
http://www.the370z.com/attachment.ph...1&d=1389662249

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All good. Girl in KC is responsive. Will make another attempt next weekend with some friends. She suggests KC Restaurant week, so it's the perfect time to go.

Good luck :)

How does one posture themselves invitingly?