i use Prima Slick liberally on a soft paper towel and just wipe off. i only drive my car on sunny weekends.
on my dd's, i use Griot's boar's hair wheel brush with the long handle. as for detergent you can use their BBS approved wheel cleaner, or do like me, just use their CarWash shampoo. works great.
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