here are some pics... and tips for others in the future
first you have to push the little tab on the side in as seen here next to my thumb.
after you do that you can pull down the lever like this. you'll need to close the door partially to pull down the lever. once the lever gets pulled down it'll pop out.
after this is out you can pull out the female side from the inside of the car by sticking your hand in where the kick panel cover use to be. to remove this pull from the bottom. and then on a non-bose system you can drill a hole through one of the sections thats not used to run the speaker wire. to install just put the female section back in... top first and the bottom will snap in.
then for the gray lever piece, pull the lever all the way down and push it in and then push the lever up to lock it back in place.
and another tip is use a coat hanger or something similar to run the speaker wire through the rubber hose, makes it easy!